How to help DD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It may not be appropriate if the daughter is sensitive. However, it is undeniable that these are factors that play a HUGE role in the dating scene and investing in your physical appearance can make you more confident attract someone who is on par with your standards.

If physical attractiveness is what you feel you lack.

Please don’t assume that is all women bring to the table!!! (ie, they are good for)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Join social activities. Work on fitness and dressing. Things will happen. She is young.

But oh my gosh, the mom can’t TELL her to “focus on fitness and dressing.”

And it’s also awful advice.

Why? What's your suggestion?

NP. How about it’s none of Anxious Mommy’s business, and she shouldn’t interfere? How about that.

It is natural, if you love someone , for you to want them to reach their goals.

I agree, the mother should not bring this up. By observation though, she might see that the daughter might not be putting herself out there (ie, is she going out when invited ? Does she have a hobby or volunteer?) If she seems depressed and unengaged, then therapy might be in order. But not because she doesn’t have a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Is your daughter overweight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It may not be appropriate if the daughter is sensitive. However, it is undeniable that these are factors that play a HUGE role in the dating scene and investing in your physical appearance can make you more confident attract someone who is on par with your standards.

If physical attractiveness is what you feel you lack.

Please don’t assume that is all women bring to the table!!! (ie, they are good for)

This^.

[Anonymous]

It’s not all women bring to the table but can open the door to a relationship. I’m assuming the daughter has standards for physical appearances just like everyone else. It’s not shallow; it is facts. Investing in your physical appearance often has massive personal, financial, and social gains.

[Anonymous]

She’s so young. Let her live a little she’ll figure life out. She has friends

[Anonymous]

You may not like this answer OP, but it’s possible that your daughter just isn’t interested in dating and/or isn’t interested in letting you know about her love life. She could be asexual or gay and just hasn’t come out to you….