University student threatening entire family

[Anonymous]

You/Your husband clearly have a chip on your shoulder about athletes, you may want to work on that.

Athletes live under more scrutiny than any other student on campus. All your H has to do is contact the coach and the athletic department. Your story does not really add up. Unless this is an Olympic level athlete or a future NBA player, nobody is going to do all that you posted to keep this student around.

Any other student there is really no recourse for behavior issues, but athletes are held to a much higher standard than any other student.

[Anonymous]

Report it to the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, moving forward - DH should look for a new job where athletics aren’t as valued. In the meantime, I would not make these things major issues. If he wants to call a kid on plagiarism, he should put all student work through that program that does that. And if it’s an athlete who needs a C, so what. A C is not good. Give it, focus on the kids who are interested, and move along. The hassle you’re going through right now is not worth it. And clearly, these kids aren’t learning that plagiarism is wrong from these encounters.

Meaning, he should not just identify plagiarism based on his own gut. He’s probably right but just be more systematic about it. He has more of a leg to stand on then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were you and/or your husband I'd file a restraining order against the student.

Unless there is more that OP hasn't told us, there likely aren't grounds for it. The guy just emailed that he knows their address and kids' names...that's not illegal. "Threats" have to be very specific.
Unfortunately I have personal experience with this. It takes a LOT for police/courts to take action.

[Anonymous]

If someone makes a threat like that can't you get a restraining order? I am so sorry you are dealing with this!

[Anonymous]

If I were him I would just pass everyone. Who cares? Does the university punish him if everyone passes?

But also, make a report at a non university police department if at all possible.

[Anonymous]

Document everything, take dated pics of all the threats, contact a lawyer and police to start a trail.

Your husband has to get out, OP. Ultimately the university needs that sports concept to survive, so he won't find much support in the administration. The reason colleges invest so much in sports is that they believe it will attract more male students. There is a significant gender imbalance these days on college campuses, which is not good for student relations. The issue is that attracting males with sports generates another problem: the aggressive/impulsive stance of a lot of athletes. When you get campuses with male athletes and female intellectuals, it makes for an unpleasant dating culture as well - unpleasant for the females, who are also faced with aggression and threats.

So get out of these campuses. These are the sort of places that need to go out of business when demographics fall off a cliff in a few years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how does the university handle crimes? I would go to the local police, if nothing else, so that the threats are on file. If that police department is above board, they will take the report. It seems you have adequate and tangible proof.

Also cameras everywhere around your property. Everywhere. This kid sounds unhinged.

PP again. Also, get a housesitter while you are gone. This is what we do, as we came across a somewhat similar situation.

We have s young girl staying with our pets. I’m very concerned about leaving her alone if he shows up.

Does she know not to answer the door or phone? Does she know the number to 911? This is the bare minimum that we require from our housesitters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You/Your husband clearly have a chip on your shoulder about athletes, you may want to work on that.

Athletes live under more scrutiny than any other student on campus. All your H has to do is contact the coach and the athletic department. Your story does not really add up. Unless this is an Olympic level athlete or a future NBA player, nobody is going to do all that you posted to keep this student around.

Any other student there is really no recourse for behavior issues, but athletes are held to a much higher standard than any other student.

That is completely untrue. I don't know what planet you're living on.

[Anonymous]

Your DH should be going straight to this student's Dean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH should be going straight to this student's Dean.

+1

Also go above coach to the Athletic Director.

Maybe consult with an attorney to understand what you can expect from law enforcement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH should be going straight to this student's Dean.

+1

Also go above coach to the Athletic Director.

Maybe consult with an attorney to understand what you can expect from law enforcement.

+1

Both entities might not be cooperative, and a lawyer will only help, even if it is to send a C/D letter. Good luck OP. I can't believe some posters are trying to blame you. The student knows he can get thrown out of school easily, and that is exactly what he is up in arms about. Chances are, he is barely passing his other courses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You/Your husband clearly have a chip on your shoulder about athletes, you may want to work on that.

Athletes live under more scrutiny than any other student on campus. All your H has to do is contact the coach and the athletic department. Your story does not really add up. Unless this is an Olympic level athlete or a future NBA player, nobody is going to do all that you posted to keep this student around.

Any other student there is really no recourse for behavior issues, but athletes are held to a much higher standard than any other student.

That is completely untrue. I don't know what planet you're living on.

+1

PP has never once worked for a university or college.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry how awful

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why has this not been brought before the University Court? Be aware that an accused athlete will bring any and all reinforcements (multiple character witnesses, including the coaches and liaisons, mainly) for their trial, but I have seen students literally get thrown out of school real time, on the spot, same day as trial, for this offense.

What is the university doing for you?

The past student ended up bring legally threatened and just left.

With this current student DH is sending everything to the Dean. We will probably file a report.

You will “probably file a report”? File a report!