Had a nanny for my first two babies, considering daycare for my third...experiences?

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

It’s always so annoying when the nannies trying to drum up business post here, and I say that as someone who hired a nanny for ten years. But the post above is ridiculous nonsense.

Yeah I hope no one reads this and thinks it’s true.

- mom who went from 1:2 nanny share ratio to 1:3 infant ratio and somehow the world didn’t end. Turns out that’s not a huge difference. Oh and the daycare washed bottles, had a dark and quiet napping area, and sent home a happy and clean kid each day!

+1 also beware of the notion that home daycares automatically have better ratios. In MD a home daycare can have 8 children including 2 babies and only one teacher for all of them.

Yeah not to mention kids of all different ages so your kid might not have many same aged playmates like they would in a center. Home daycares can be great but it’s a different environment and what’s “better” depends more on your needs.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve done both. Went back to nanny. Here’s why: crazy worker shortage recently means lots of bad turnover. Baby constantly sick. If I went back it would be to an in home daycare.

Lol wait for public school. They come home with running nose

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

Our daycares nursery room has natural light and the babies sleep well. And they have extra rooms for toddlers and infants. I like home daycare because the ratio is better.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

you think some nannies or parents aren't lazy too? Haha

Nannies and home daycares are great, both do tons of learning activities, they talk to the babies all day, play with them. I'm more pro daycare because of the socialization, Everytime I come they are happy playing, learning together and grew up together,they really love each other

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Your kid will get sick in any setting, at home or outside

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Haven’t read all the replies, but I am a nanny and frankly a lot of the downsides to daycare you will already be stuck with due to your older kids. Your baby’s naps will be disrupted due to siblings. Baby will get sick a lot due to germs from big kids. You already have to have everyone up and out the door on a set schedule.

One question I have is what is your routine when somebody is home from school right now? If right now the nanny handles all the random days off, you should bear in mind that school is fewer than 200 days a year. That leaves about 60 days a year that are week days but not school days. Summer break, random holidays, teacher work days, and above all that you have sick days. And a sick 5 yo can doze on the couch in front of disney+, but a sick baby is going to require hands-on care.

That’s the big challenge I see if you still use a nanny and haven’t done school as your sole childcare. Make sure that you have good options for holiday care and that you are budgeting to pay for holiday break camps, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

+1 are you crazy OP?

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Nannies travels and asks for many vacations, days off.

Family daycares do not close like public schools or centers. It's better off a home daycare

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

you think some nannies or parents aren't lazy too? Haha

Nannies and home daycares are great, both do tons of learning activities, they talk to the babies all day, play with them. I'm more pro daycare because of the socialization, Everytime I come they are happy playing, learning together and grew up together,they really love each other

Young babies don’t need socialization.

A daycare is less expensive because your child doesn’t receive 1-on-1 care. They are one of many babies. It’s suboptimal childcare. No one would send their child to daycare if they didn’t have a job and were wealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

+1 are you crazy OP?

I sent my child to daycare for backup care a few times. The different in care between any sort of daycare and a nanny is night and day. Even at the best home daycare your baby will be waiting to be fed, changed and receive less interaction with caregivers.

Consider a mom who has triplets. Do you think the triplets receive the same amount of attention and care as a singleton? Nope. That’s what you’re signing up for - one person to watch 3 or 4 babies every day. You’re crazy if you choose that when you have the means to hire a nanny.

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In so many ways -- Baby #3 has to adjust to everyone else's schedule. Baby #3 will be use to more activity, more people, different personalities. The house, they are born into, is more active. They are likely to adjust to daycare very well.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

+1 are you crazy OP?

I sent my child to daycare for backup care a few times. The different in care between any sort of daycare and a nanny is night and day. Even at the best home daycare your baby will be waiting to be fed, changed and receive less interaction with caregivers.

Consider a mom who has triplets. Do you think the triplets receive the same amount of attention and care as a singleton? Nope. That’s what you’re signing up for - one person to watch 3 or 4 babies every day. You’re crazy if you choose that when you have the means to hire a nanny.

When my child was a baby I would never have considered sending them to a "backup daycare" with random caregivers as an occasional thing. Consistency and caregivers that know your baby is so important. I get that it's a necessity sometimes for some families, but it's so different from sending them to their regular center where the caregivers know them (and also why asking about turnover is so so important).

We were spoiled because our center overstaffed so there was actually one teacher for every two babies. It was awesome.

The hardest year was when DD moved to the 2s room. I think that age 2 is when home daycares have a real advantage because they will typically have a smaller group there vs the 12 kids they can have in a center. But there is also an advantage to consistency. We're glad DD has been in the same small center since she was a baby.

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I am struggling with the opposite change - our 18 mo was in the daycare since 3.5 mo and we loved it big time. THen we moved and had to pull him out. Now we are struggling to get him a spot and had to hire a nanny. I hate it! I hate to have a stranger in my home (both me adn my husband work form home). Kiddo is confused with all these come and go, when he sees us and then we dissapear multiple times a day. Nanny is not great. PLus she got strep on the first week of work and is out for two days. I want my great daycare and piece of mind back.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

you think some nannies or parents aren't lazy too? Haha

Nannies and home daycares are great, both do tons of learning activities, they talk to the babies all day, play with them. I'm more pro daycare because of the socialization, Everytime I come they are happy playing, learning together and grew up together,they really love each other

Young babies don’t need socialization.

A daycare is less expensive because your child doesn’t receive 1-on-1 care. They are one of many babies. It’s suboptimal childcare. No one would send their child to daycare if they didn’t have a job and were wealthy.

Haha. I'm wealthy and I sent my son to a local daycare. He's the most caring, empathetic boy with so much love to give. I work for the government and yes we choose daycares that has caring people, a small group of kids to socialize( 6 or 8 kids), lots of love and they do cute crafts with the children. Teaching kids being empathetic is first,then comes academics

Anyone "educated" can be an azzhole like you

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will be swapping 1:1 attention for 1:3 or 1:4. Do you like washing many bottles every day? Having a baby with RSV/hand food and mouth/roseola/etc? Dealing with a changing cast of caregivers? Having an overtired baby who doesn’t nap because infant rooms are generally loud and bright and hard for infants to sleep in? Not having your baby’s poops
Changed immediately? Having them lay on a boppy or in a chair or bouncer most of the awake time when they aren’t being fed or diapered? That’s daycare. It’s just exchanging one set of issues for another. Nannies are costly for a reason - it’s why most parent prefer them. But working from home with a nanny and your child is also a special kind of challenge and personally while it was better for my kid it made my work life difficult. Try a home daycare to start - more home like, better ratios, and less institutional.

you think some nannies or parents aren't lazy too? Haha

Nannies and home daycares are great, both do tons of learning activities, they talk to the babies all day, play with them. I'm more pro daycare because of the socialization, Everytime I come they are happy playing, learning together and grew up together,they really love each other

Young babies don’t need socialization.

A daycare is less expensive because your child doesn’t receive 1-on-1 care. They are one of many babies. It’s suboptimal childcare. No one would send their child to daycare if they didn’t have a job and were wealthy.

I'm the parent who has a more than a 100k salary and works for the government.

You are Incorrect.
Children who goes to family Daycares have at least 2 people. Ours had 3, The provider which was a prek teacher, her mom and another assistant. They are lovely people! The babies gets lots of attention and they grow up fine. My son is thriving now at school. I'm so thankful they showed him so much love.
I'm Maryland they can only have 4 infants max.
2 teachers for 2 babies.

Centers are worst, the ratio is 3 babies 1 teacher and they can have up to 6 or 8 infants, crazy

Nanny and small family daycares are great! We loved our local daycare!