My mother’s self-imposed loneliness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to detach with love or detach without love-either way detach! I have a mother and sister like this-stuck in victim mentality, but cannot be accountable for poor behavior. The best place for them to work on their feeling sin therapy, but people like this usually just make others run to therapy to learn to detach from them. Set your boundaries. Figure out what level of together you can handle. If she acts up, give a warning, and then it she continues, exit stage left.

OMG are you me? I could have written this

[Anonymous]

Loneliness is resentful self centred spoilt bratt behaviour...me me me, what about me...me ! Pft

[Anonymous]

As others have suggested, detach with love and do NOT enable. Do not react at all when she complains. You cannot reason with her. One good way to detach is to suggest she work with a therapist every time she wants to emote. If it were normal emoting and within reason i would say to humor her, but it's self-defeating and she is in a rut. She may get angry, but her issues are beyond family support and require a trained professional.

You are not responsible for her happiness. Do what you can manage. If she makes you miserable each visit, make visits shorter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As others have suggested, detach with love and do NOT enable. Do not react at all when she complains. You cannot reason with her. One good way to detach is to suggest she work with a therapist every time she wants to emote. If it were normal emoting and within reason i would say to humor her, but it's self-defeating and she is in a rut. She may get angry, but her issues are beyond family support and require a trained professional.

You are not responsible for her happiness. Do what you can manage. If she makes you miserable each visit, make visits shorter.

I posted this and then went back and read responses. I am 19:24 too. Didn't realize this thread was a month old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As others have suggested, detach with love and do NOT enable. Do not react at all when she complains. You cannot reason with her. One good way to detach is to suggest she work with a therapist every time she wants to emote. If it were normal emoting and within reason i would say to humor her, but it's self-defeating and she is in a rut. She may get angry, but her issues are beyond family support and require a trained professional.

You are not responsible for her happiness. Do what you can manage. If she makes you miserable each visit, make visits shorter.

I posted this and then went back and read responses. I am 19:24 too. Didn't realize this thread was a month old.

Sorry not 19:24, but the person 19:24 responded to. Carry on...