Breast Buds - what to wear to feel more comfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This time of year, I would suggest an tanktop undershirt. She gets to be warm and it masks development a bit.

+1
Tanks are better to prevent any constriction

[Anonymous]

At this age girls started to want to wear even if don’t need so would let her go pick some out that fit well and if she is uncomfortable with you, know that doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t want to wear them. She will soon notice other girls are too if not already.

[Anonymous]

My DD started wearing a bra in 4th grade. Yes you can see it and no, nobody made fun of her at all ever. She also won't hesitate to wear a bra that has straps that show with the type of top he is wearing.

[Anonymous]

I got my 3rd grader a training bra that she wears on gym days. When I was young, I remember other Asian mothers cautioning my mom (we are Asian) to not start with sports bras because they squish breasts flat and don’t allow breasts to grow in natural / round shapes. No idea if that’s legit or not but I certainly appreciate my breasts’ natural shape (probably more related to genetics but who knows) so I wanted to avoid sports bras for everyday non-sports use just in case

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I am a PP and also want to note that on a whole kids seem much kinder to each other these days. I am always worried about my kids getting teased because of my childhood experiences and it really doesn’t happen as much, as least not yet (mine are still in elementary).

yes my daughter was commenting that her friend just got a bra and she was being all secretive about it and the boys were like we know what you are talking about - we have older sisters. Definitely not a big deal anymore - no one cares.

[Anonymous]

My kid was the first to wear a bra and never was teased. We liked the Hanna Andersson ones in the beginning because they are thicker and prevent the breast buds from poking out as much. It kind of make everything smoothed out.

[Anonymous]

No one makes fun of bras and if you are in a community where that happens in this day and age, especially by boys, report it. No one puts up with harassment like that now--thankfully.

Just get her some cute little bras at target or sports bras and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got my 3rd grader a training bra that she wears on gym days. When I was young, I remember other Asian mothers cautioning my mom (we are Asian) to not start with sports bras because they squish breasts flat and don’t allow breasts to grow in natural / round shapes. No idea if that’s legit or not but I certainly appreciate my breasts’ natural shape (probably more related to genetics but who knows) so I wanted to avoid sports bras for everyday non-sports use just in case

Sorry but as an Asian daughter that’s the most ridiculously made-up kind of thing Asian moms would say and I’m surprised you’re willing to perpetuate it. Your breasts literally have no idea what they’re wearing and won’t “change shape” in different bras- if that was the case, people who use chest binders would have permanent results.

Your breasts’ shape are due to genetics, hormones and gravity.

[Anonymous]

NP here. In what grade do girls start wearing bras typically? DD is second grader and is very lean overall. Would this talk come up during annual medical exam or is there an age I should start getting her used to a camisole at the very least?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. In what grade do girls start wearing bras typically? DD is second grader and is very lean overall. Would this talk come up during annual medical exam or is there an age I should start getting her used to a camisole at the very least?

Fourth grade is most typical per my friends mom who taught it. But there is obviously variation. I don’t think you need to get your daughter used to it. I kind of suggested the idea to mine at some point in 4th and provided the bras but she didn’t really take to wearing one everyday until 3-6 months after the bras first showed up. But there’s no reason they really have to wear a bra so I wouldn’t push it.

[Anonymous]

You can get camis that are more snug and/or athletic too. I think that’s better than your typical cotton tank in some cases.

They have SO many options for first bras now. Look for something like a bralette. It’s less compression than a sports bra, but adds a layer.

I’d just start buying a few things and see what she likes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. In what grade do girls start wearing bras typically? DD is second grader and is very lean overall. Would this talk come up during annual medical exam or is there an age I should start getting her used to a camisole at the very least?

My daughter is 9 and in 4th grade and there’s a VERY wide range. Some girls are clearly developing and some are still very much not.

I don’t think you need to prep your daughter in advance. Just wait until she needs it. Mine is not there yet, but I’ll just get her some options when it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. In what grade do girls start wearing bras typically? DD is second grader and is very lean overall. Would this talk come up during annual medical exam or is there an age I should start getting her used to a camisole at the very least?

Not in second grade, no.

[Anonymous]

Lots of girls are just wearing sports bras, even in 4th grade. Which is when my kid started wearing them. And she is still flat a year later. I don’t think anyone will tease her. My kid asked for a bra because so many other girls were already wearing them.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. In what grade do girls start wearing bras typically? DD is second grader and is very lean overall. Would this talk come up during annual medical exam or is there an age I should start getting her used to a camisole at the very least?

There is no right answer. I hate the phrase “when she needs it.” She doesn’t need a bra, rather, she may want one to feel more comfortable and that is fine. Wait until she asks or you can leave it open and just say, let me know when you would like one. As long as your daughter is wearing opaque shirts and is comfortable- she doesn’t “need” a bra at 8,9,10 or whenever. My daughter started around 11-12. She was developing before then, but had no interest in wearing a bra. It was ok by me