Leaving a job and burning bridges

[Anonymous]

Not the OP but I am in the exact same position. Thank you PPs for your replies. I think I am too much of a people pleaser and hate to rock the boat. I now know I need to look out for myself too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm debating leaving a job after a a few months that is making me miserable. I took the position to work with a former boss I really enjoyed working for and has always been supportive of my career. However, the rest of the role is not what I thought it would be and the entire workplace is pretty toxic.

Has anyone quit a job and burned a bridge, and did or didn't regret it?? Looking for both sides here and trying to decide if it's worth it to just suck it up and put in at least a year. [/quote

Quitting a job does not burn a bridge.

Leave on a professional note. "I'm tendering my notice to pursue other professional opportunities."

People leave jobs all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm debating leaving a job after a a few months that is making me miserable. I took the position to work with a former boss I really enjoyed working for and has always been supportive of my career. However, the rest of the role is not what I thought it would be and the entire workplace is pretty toxic.

Has anyone quit a job and burned a bridge, and did or didn't regret it?? Looking for both sides here and trying to decide if it's worth it to just suck it up and put in at least a year.

Np, and wow-- we must be the same person. I am going through a nearly identical situation and ready to roll at ten weeks in. I'm seeing things in the boss that I had not seen before (passive-aggressive, indecisive, conflict-avoidant, etc) and it's making me lose respect for them. Plus, the office is chaotic, with a few toxic characters. At this point in my career, I feel little to no guilt for doing what's best for me, so if another opportunity presents itself, I will leave.

[Anonymous]

Always take the high road. Talk with your former/now boss and share your concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had someone on my team leave after 3 months. She went back to her old company after they enticed her with a promotion. She was surprised that this was viewed in such a negative light. If the environment is truly toxic, then leave. If it isn't, I would recommend staying for a year. One doesn't want to be perceived as a job hopper.

This was obviously posted by an old person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP but I am in the exact same position. Thank you PPs for your replies. I think I am too much of a people pleaser and hate to rock the boat. I now know I need to look out for myself too.

In the same boat. I dread everyday and the people - every single one of them is toxic and also miserable (but they won't leave). I will never again accept a job without visiting the workplace or asking about the attrition rate.

[Anonymous]

Say little on your way out the door. You haven’t been there long enough to judge all the internal dynamics fairly, so don’t kick people on the way out. This will also give you peace of mind that you didn’t contribute to the toxicity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had someone on my team leave after 3 months. She went back to her old company after they enticed her with a promotion. She was surprised that this was viewed in such a negative light. If the environment is truly toxic, then leave. If it isn't, I would recommend staying for a year. One doesn't want to be perceived as a job hopper.

^This is an outdated view of leaving jobs. PP, if your company was good, the employee would not have been enticed back.

OP, if job doesn't feel right in first 60 days, you should trust your gut and get out b/c jobs/managers/co-workers do not typically get better over time.

This right here. You may want to reflect on the onboarding experience and look for any expectation-reality haps between how the job/culture is sold vs. how you know it really is.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. Gaps not haps. Ugh…

[Anonymous]

I left after 5 months to return to my previous employer. I only left my original job due to business instability.