Leaving a job and burning bridges

[Anonymous]

I'm debating leaving a job after a a few months that is making me miserable. I took the position to work with a former boss I really enjoyed working for and has always been supportive of my career. However, the rest of the role is not what I thought it would be and the entire workplace is pretty toxic.

Has anyone quit a job and burned a bridge, and did or didn't regret it?? Looking for both sides here and trying to decide if it's worth it to just suck it up and put in at least a year.

[Anonymous]

Talk to the "former boss" about this.

[Anonymous]

I just had this same thing happen but I only lasted four months. I was very straightforward with my former/current boss that it was not a good fit for me and I didn’t think I could be successful. I was very very careful to put the blame on myself (even though it was really the culture). She took it well and I took a new job that is so far a much better fit.

I don’t think I burned a bridge but I am not sure this person would hire me again but oh well

[Anonymous]

I don't think you'll be burning a bridge if the opportunity is not what was expected. Your former boss probably realizes this to some extent and may or may not feel some embarassment about it. If they brought you with them to a new company they clearly like you...

[Anonymous]

You can leave the job OP without setting the place on fire.
The same thing happened to me, I left as professionally as I could and only confided in a few close confidants who were having a similar experience. While the rest of the organization may be petty toxic a-holes, you don't have to be one of them. And there are others in the company who you may want to reach out to in the future, and if they think well enough about you now, you should aim to leave it that way.
Good luck with the job hunt!

[Anonymous]

I’ve left before eight weeks. Ripping off the bandaid and being professional and kind won’t burn bridges. This happens all the time. “Larla, this job doesn’t feel like the right fit for me for these [true and none judgement]reasons. I think it’s best if I step down. You know I adore working with you and sincerely hope we do again.”

[Anonymous]

I agree with the others. This is really more common than you think.

I work for a foreign company and many people just don't fit the "corporate culture" here. It's not for everybody. Some people love it though.

So, unless you dip your toe in the water, you don't know. You dipped. It's too cold. Move on.

Life is too short to be miserable at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the others. This is really more common than you think.

I work for a foreign company and many people just don't fit the "corporate culture" here. It's not for everybody. Some people love it though.

So, unless you dip your toe in the water, you don't know. You dipped. It's too cold. Move on.

Life is too short to be miserable at work.

Can we get an AMEN here?!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aaron Rodgers posts on DCUM?

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[Anonymous]

I’ve burned a few bridges. It happens. Move on to what is best for you. It all works out int the end. It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Again...DON"T BURN BRIDGES. There are no positive outcomes to leaving under a cloud of your own making but plenty of potentially negative consequences.

[Anonymous]

I had someone on my team leave after 3 months. She went back to her old company after they enticed her with a promotion. She was surprised that this was viewed in such a negative light. If the environment is truly toxic, then leave. If it isn't, I would recommend staying for a year. One doesn't want to be perceived as a job hopper.

[Anonymous]

no one cares about job hopping and the only person who cares about you is you.

Do what is best for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had someone on my team leave after 3 months. She went back to her old company after they enticed her with a promotion. She was surprised that this was viewed in such a negative light. If the environment is truly toxic, then leave. If it isn't, I would recommend staying for a year. One doesn't want to be perceived as a job hopper.

^This is an outdated view of leaving jobs. PP, if your company was good, the employee would not have been enticed back.

OP, if job doesn't feel right in first 60 days, you should trust your gut and get out b/c jobs/managers/co-workers do not typically get better over time.