Sad about new kitten

[Anonymous]

Some cats actually respond more affectionately if you ignore them. My in-laws had a cat that was scared of everything, so I ignored him. One day, he leapt onto my lap. Even then, I didn’t pet him. Eventually, he’d seek me out and not only would he sit on my lap, but he’d kneed my shoulder with his front paws, the way kittens do with their mothers. He felt safe with me because I didn’t ask anything of him.

[Anonymous]

We adopted an adult cat. He hissed at us the first day, then happily accepted pets and cheek scratches but no snuggles. Two years later, he’s absolutely loves our teen and follows DS around to snuggle with him. He actually wraps his paws around DS like he’s hugging him. So give it time!

[Anonymous]

Did she have friends before you adopted her? Often kittens do best when they have a playmate, and if you can get another one go back for a male. She may come out of her shell more if she has a playmate.

[Anonymous]

I'd try to hand feed her as much as possible. Or at least work towards that with her food near you while she eats.

[Anonymous]

This is the OP and I'm reporting back. We had a major turnaround in the last two days! I worked on not picking her up, but instead just petting her briefly with one or two fingers whenever she came near me. Gave her lots of playtime and space. As of yesterday, she has started seeking me out and even climbed up on me and took a nap on my chest. I was so happy!! I just love her so much and am glad to see that she's starting to feel safe and comfortable with me.

[Anonymous]

I am so happy to hear that! Great news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP and I'm reporting back. We had a major turnaround in the last two days! I worked on not picking her up, but instead just petting her briefly with one or two fingers whenever she came near me. Gave her lots of playtime and space. As of yesterday, she has started seeking me out and even climbed up on me and took a nap on my chest. I was so happy!! I just love her so much and am glad to see that she's starting to feel safe and comfortable with me.

That's great! Thanks for the update!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP and I'm reporting back. We had a major turnaround in the last two days! I worked on not picking her up, but instead just petting her briefly with one or two fingers whenever she came near me. Gave her lots of playtime and space. As of yesterday, she has started seeking me out and even climbed up on me and took a nap on my chest. I was so happy!! I just love her so much and am glad to see that she's starting to feel safe and comfortable with me.

Yay! It’s only going to get better from here! I love cats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP and I'm reporting back. We had a major turnaround in the last two days! I worked on not picking her up, but instead just petting her briefly with one or two fingers whenever she came near me. Gave her lots of playtime and space. As of yesterday, she has started seeking me out and even climbed up on me and took a nap on my chest. I was so happy!! I just love her so much and am glad to see that she's starting to feel safe and comfortable with me.

So happy for you OP <3

[Anonymous]

So many cats love to cuddle but hate being picked up.

[Anonymous]

So happy to hear this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She hopefully will come around on her own terms. I adopted 2 sister kittens years ago and after a few weeks felt the same way about them. I didn’t think we were bonding.

One day I took a nap on the sofa and woke up to find them both cuddled up to me.

That's really sweet to hear! Happy for y'all!