how to talk about this / is it changable or just a very extroverted personality

[Anonymous]

I think I can picture what you mean, op, and I do think it sounds like it could be annoying-sort of fake and keyed up, if I’m understanding you, rather than a spontaneous engagement with the conversation. I think it’s probably her wanting to show she’s the ball/eager and proactive (which in general is great!)

You may be able to say something privately like like-“I think it will help more with transitions if I sort of wrap up convo with larlo and then when he’s settled I’ll ask you something to invite you into the convo as a transition.” If it’s just her attempting to seem engaged that should do the trick.

[Anonymous]

what on earth is larlo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just directly tell her you don't want to be interrupted by anyone when talking to the kids unless necessary?
Any normal adult should undestand.

I am a Nanny and if my boss told me this directly I would just walk out!

This is just rude!

OP - if this is the worst thing you can say about your Nanny then be grateful + thank your lucky ✨ stars for you have someone who is definitely worth her weight in pure gold.

I would be blessed to have someone in my child’s life who was so engaged & interested.

You have plenty of time to speak one on one w/your child when the Nanny is not there.

Hi rude nanny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny, and I would quit on the spot if basically told to shut up. Also, parents, know that lots of times we burst with excitement, wanting to tell you something wonderful about your kids, what they did or said, or about t their day, to share something we think is just exciting for you as it is for us, and often you do not even listen, or show any enthusiasm! That is a bit discouraging, and now when I read OP post, I see that lots of parents just do not get it.

Do you always interrupt people because you can't wait your turn? How do you expect to model appropriate behavior to the children if you are unable to repress your excitement?

[Anonymous]

She does not need to repress it. It is OK to be excited about the kids. My nanny is so dull and tired, never interrupts, never is excited about anything. My child is going to think all adults are just "very serious" and never fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just directly tell her you don't want to be interrupted by anyone when talking to the kids unless necessary?
Any normal adult should undestand.

This is very rude and most nannies would look for another job and leave. However. I suspect OP's nanny is already looking for a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny, and I would quit on the spot if basically told to shut up. Also, parents, know that lots of times we burst with excitement, wanting to tell you something wonderful about your kids, what they did or said, or about t their day, to share something we think is just exciting for you as it is for us, and often you do not even listen, or show any enthusiasm! That is a bit discouraging, and now when I read OP post, I see that lots of parents just do not get it.

Children “burst with excitement,” adults do not. I was a camp counselor and a nanny for years, and while I always loved sharing updates with parents, I didn’t “burst” to do so. I talked to them, I read the room, I found the right moment. Interrupting is rude, and I always taught my kids not to interrupt. Why would I model that it’s OK for an adult to interrupt another adult?

And by the way, “showing enthusiasm” does not equal “be thrilled to be interrupted.”

Joining a conversation is not interrupting.