Do your frequent guests help with the burden of hosting at all?

[Anonymous]

Stop inviting them so often. They aren’t going to change.

[Anonymous]

So dial back the visits. Yours and theirs.

[Anonymous]

YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

[Anonymous]

My most frequent visitor is my adult daughter, she offers to pay for any meal when we go out, she often shops for and cooks meals for us, she finds fun outings for us to do, and she is no trouble at all as she likes to just read and relax as well. She always leaves the guest room and bathroom just as it was when she got here. She's a great guest, I think she must have been raised right!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

team hostess here, no reason at ALL they should be cleaning after they plan, cook, serve. Except my one friend who has to load her dishwasher just right, can't twist her arm, so I make sure to bring extra hostess gifts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

You expect to be served a fully holiday meal while contributing nothing? In my family and close friend groups, we help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

No I help the host so that’s why I would be turned off if he/she did nothing to help cleanup. If it’s too much for you, then don’t invite people over to your home for a meal

You expect to be served a fully holiday meal while contributing nothing? In my family and close friend groups, we help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

You expect to be served a fully holiday meal while contributing nothing? In my family and close friend groups, we help.

No I help the host so that’s why I would be turned off if he/she did nothing to help cleanup. If it’s too much for you, then don’t invite people over to your home for a meal

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YES! I love hosting big dinners and never clean them up. Guests do it.

I should say I plan, cook, serve...but don't clean.

Why don’t you help clean too? That’s so strange to me. I would rather the host didn’t have me over if I was expected to do the cleaning while they sit around

You expect to be served a fully holiday meal while contributing nothing? In my family and close friend groups, we help.

No I help the host so that’s why I would be turned off if he/she did nothing to help cleanup. If it’s too much for you, then don’t invite people over to your home for a meal

Um, good guests don’t help because “it’s too much for the host,” they help because being entertained in someone’s home is different from dining in a restaurant, and staying under a friend’s roof is different from staying in a hotel. I’ve been the guest of a university president, just the family, and I helped clear the table, and also helped to bring in coffee. I’m surprised that anyone would think sitting around like a bump on a log is the norm. I’m so embarrassed for you.

[Anonymous]

All my friends and family help when they come over, and I help when I visit them. Because it's part of the fun, and we enjoy each other's company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use your words.

This. You cover your parents and your spouse your in-laws.

“Mom/Dad, we love having you visit. Our schedules with work and the kids have gotten crazy so here’s our plan for your visit. We will cook all the meals on Thursday for thanksgiving but will need to do something simple on Weds and Friday. So let me know if you’d like to go pick something up for us - or we can just order something simple in. Also Bill and I need to do a little work on Friday. We have a teen babysitter up the street we can call, or let me know if you would be up for looking after the kids for a couple of hours. “

[Anonymous]

We don’t invite people to stay a second time if we don’t enjoy having them as guests the first time.

[Anonymous]

Some people like to manage their own kitchen. The last thing I want is 6 (kind/helpful) people wedged in to my small kitchen asking where the gravy should be transferred to, excusing themselves for needing the sink for just a minute to wash hands, asking for a fresh towel...on and on. Just leave it. In a nice quiet kitchen I can get it all taken care of much better. You can go sit down and enjoy the evening.

Clearly OP is not this person but I think you need to definitely assign tasks so people will know your expectations. I am very happy to help anyone that asks...but I would never just take over in your kitchen and prep a meal.