Rich men in sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

A wealthy married man once made a (unsuccessful) pass at me. Apparently his marriage was not just sexless but emotionally empty as well, not that there’s any way I could know for sure. He said he was staying for his kids. He said I am pretty and funny and because I’m married I guess he thought I wouldn’t blow up his life/arrangement.

My marriage was pretty bad and he was charming but sleeping with a married man certainly wasn’t going to make anything better.

[Anonymous]

Kind of a dumb topic. Rich or poor, a married man can always get sex if his wife doesn't put out.

[Anonymous]

We are rich (bc of both of our earrings). Dh has low drive bc of antidepressants. It seems like half his firm (which is 90% men at the top) have mental health issues and are likely on some type of medication. I would not be surprised if this was overall a very sizable portion of rich men)

Also “rich men” are too big of workaholics to have time for others including an affair partner

[Anonymous]

Love. Loyalty. Kids. Emotional attachment. Familiarity. Dividing finances and responsibilities. Reputation. Morality. Low sex drive or ability to do it solo. There could be literally dozens of reasons, one wouldn't want to disrupt theirs and family's lives.

[Anonymous]

Also wealthy men are likely 45+ so not high on hormones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also wealthy men are likely 45+ so not high on hormones.

Exactly. Most are just trading stories.

[Anonymous]

Rich men can afford what it takes to be discrete. It’s a lot less expensive than losing half of ones net worth. Their wives lie the lifestyle and thus turn a blind eye to what’s going on plus can find their own boy toy if reasonably attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know sex isn't the only reason people are married, right?

No way…? There are other reasons why people get married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of a dumb topic. Rich or poor, a married man can always get sex if his wife doesn't put out.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A wealthy married man once made a (unsuccessful) pass at me. Apparently his marriage was not just sexless but emotionally empty as well, not that there’s any way I could know for sure. He said he was staying for his kids. He said I am pretty and funny and because I’m married I guess he thought I wouldn’t blow up his life/arrangement.

My marriage was pretty bad and he was charming but sleeping with a married man certainly wasn’t going to make anything better.

It would make it better for a few minutes. 😈

[Anonymous]

In DH's case, it's because he doesn't want to have sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is a big thing for most healthy men…their strongest driving force.

If you are wealthy it’s rational to have an affair or side piece if your wife isn’t giving it to you.

This

And then, like Beckham, you realize the grass isn't greener and you are about to lose everything that matters to you: your children, family and the wife you love.

Marriages have phases. Smart men know this. Smart men that don't know this, see it and turn back in instead of out. Dumb men give up half their fortune and keep playing the game over and over.

Smart men get a prenup.

Smart women don't agree to one that would screw them over. "Prenup," in and of itself, is meaningless. It all comes down to the terms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is a big thing for most healthy men…their strongest driving force.

If you are wealthy it’s rational to have an affair or side piece if your wife isn’t giving it to you.

This

And then, like Beckham, you realize the grass isn't greener and you are about to lose everything that matters to you: your children, family and the wife you love.

Marriages have phases. Smart men know this. Smart men that don't know this, see it and turn back in instead of out. Dumb men give up half their fortune and keep playing the game over and over.

Smart men get a prenup.

Most of the happily married ones got married before a prenup would have been useful. I can't think of anyone I know with a prenup other than one with a ton of family money who married a grad school classmate who has been happy beyond 5 years.
The ones getting married primarily for the looks and bedroom haven't stayed happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wealthy married man once made a (unsuccessful) pass at me. Apparently his marriage was not just sexless but emotionally empty as well, not that there’s any way I could know for sure. He said he was staying for his kids. He said I am pretty and funny and because I’m married I guess he thought I wouldn’t blow up his life/arrangement.

My marriage was pretty bad and he was charming but sleeping with a married man certainly wasn’t going to make anything better.

It would make it better for a few minutes. 😈

It’s possible but I’m glad I did the right thing, blah blah blah. Believe me, I’ve thought about what those few minutes could have been like way more than I should. 😈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex is a big thing for most healthy men…their strongest driving force.

If you are wealthy it’s rational to have an affair or side piece if your wife isn’t giving it to you.

This

And then, like Beckham, you realize the grass isn't greener and you are about to lose everything that matters to you: your children, family and the wife you love.

Marriages have phases. Smart men know this. Smart men that don't know this, see it and turn back in instead of out. Dumb men give up half their fortune and keep playing the game over and over.

Smart men get a prenup.

Most of the happily married ones got married before a prenup would have been useful. I can't think of anyone I know with a prenup other than one with a ton of family money who married a grad school classmate who has been happy beyond 5 years.
The ones getting married primarily for the looks and bedroom haven't stayed happy.

Most of the miserably married ones got married before a prenup would have been useful.

Unless you become rich very young by founding a unicorn from your dorm room, were a child star, or come from a very wealthy family, most people will get married before a prenup is useful. Especially if you are pursuing a path like the traditional business world, banking, law etc.—the real money will likely come after marriage.