Can I put an end to DH constant complaining?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"It puts me on edge and makes me feel defensive."

You work on this, not on fixing your husband. He may never change. You can change your reaction and response.

Including deciding not to engage with him - whether explict or not. Explicit boundary: "I will leave room / end discussion if you complain about this again." Unspoken - you decide to leave room / stop talking to him if he complains.

Maintain your peace!