Baby gift from ILs

[Anonymous]

Lord this brings back memories of my rich in laws over promising w baby gift too. Sorry op they suck.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are being petty but I'm in a mood tonight so I will tell you what to do. Buy a stroller for $100. When they notice it, say "Yes, this is the stroller we got with your gift! It's so great to have something inexpensive that we can travel with so we don't worry about our main one getting ruined."

When they say they thought they paid for the other one, act confused and have no memory of previous conversations. Say "No...that one is our main stroller. It was like $700 and I'm sure you didn't want to spend that much on a stroller. This is the one you got us. It's so great, thank you again!"

[Anonymous]

Eh, life is long, you will be out of the stroller phase soon. Hopefully they will help pony up for college costs & that kind of thing. Worth keeping the peace & laughing about it with your DH for now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you spent $700 on a stroller you’re an idiot. In terms of your IL’s that’s kind of cheap but I’d be interested in how they view you as a DIL.

Oh please - walk into any library in the suburbs in this area and it’s filled to the brim with Uppababy vistas. That sentiment is not shared with the masses here.

Ha! An Uppababy vista is $1000

Even a basic graco stroller from Target is $300

Prices of everything are going up.

What? This Graco stroller is $120, on sale for $77 https://www.gracobaby.com/strollers/compact-lightweight-strollers/nimblelite-lightweight-stroller/SAP_2106657.html

Yeah, that one is more like an umbrella stroller.

[Anonymous]

Did they pay for the down payment on your house or will they pay for private school for your kids? If so, then stop complaining.

[Anonymous]

I mean, do you want to be petty—and accurate—or play the long game and get a nice inheritance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did they pay for the down payment on your house or will they pay for private school for your kids? If so, then stop complaining.

There is no way they did either of those things if they have a $100 gc

[Anonymous]

I think you need more than one example to decide they are terribly cheap. It doesn’t matter what car they drive either.

[Anonymous]

How have they treated their other kids/grandkids. This just might be the way they are.

Right or wrong, they might have seen how expensive strollers are, think that's ridiculous, so just gave you the gift card so they didn't have to say no to the expensive stroller.

[Anonymous]

OP. This is a little weird and annoying but firmly, firmly in the category of stuff you need to just roll with and forget about.

How much space is this stupid stroller thing taking up in your brain?? Let it go! You’re never going to change your in laws. They’re fixed stars in your life. Just forget about it. You deserve to live your life without thinking about this ever again.

Please also stop worrying about their cars. You need to do some policing of your own thoughts here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need to vent anonymously because I know this makes me sound shallow, but I can’t help it.

My in-laws are retired and wealthy with lots of disposable cash. For example, they recently bought his and hers Teslas, seemingly on a whim. These are “fun” cars for them that they have in addition to their SUVs that they drive regularly.

DH and I had our first baby over the summer. This is not their in-laws’ grandchild. In-laws told us they wanted to buy us a stroller as a baby gift. Great, very generous, it sounded like. They told us to pick what we like and they’d pay for it. Next thing I know, they’ve given us a card with a $100 check marked “stroller”. Kinda awkward, but we went ahead and bought the stroller we wanted, which, as you can imagine, was well over $100. DH and I both thought this was odd especially since they have other grandchildren so have been in that world a while… it’s not like they’re thinking $100 would get you a stroller back in the day, so it would now, too.

Anyway, I’d probably just shrug it off as odd, except now, whenever we see them, and often we do something with the baby in the stroller, they’re gratuitously referring to it as “our stroller” saying things like, “wow, glad to see you’re getting so much use from our stroller.” It would be obnoxious if they’d bought us the stroller but it’s over the top since they paid about 15% of the stroller’s cost. It’s taking all I have not to say this to them!

Vent over, but I’m justified in thinking they’re terribly cheap, right?

Just to make you feel better, my husband financially supported his parents and they always asked him for more money to buy expensive gifts for our kids and kids of his other siblings. On top of that, we had to buy everyone gifts from us as well while they fawned over what nice gifts their parents gave them.

[Anonymous]

*grandparents

[Anonymous]

Shrug it off, doesn't matter in bigger picture or long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you spent $700 on a stroller you’re an idiot. In terms of your IL’s that’s kind of cheap but I’d be interested in how they view you as a DIL.

Oh please - walk into any library in the suburbs in this area and it’s filled to the brim with Uppababy vistas. That sentiment is not shared with the masses here.

Something idiotic doesn't cease to be idiotic because "the masses" do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guarantee that my parents (who have several grandchildren) have absolutely no idea how much a stroller costs. Heck, I only barely know because I got mine second hand. It’s not like they’re constantly in stores that sell strollers.

This is my feeling too. The grandparents are just clueless, regardless of having had other grandchildren first. This scenario of the $100 gift is probably exactly how it played out with the other family members too. Everyone just smiled and nodded and thanked them and here you are several grandchildren later and the grandparents are just blissfully unaware.

I don't think there is intentional cheapness or anything else involved.