When a kid shows up obviously sick for a play date

[Anonymous]

Are you saying that you think it was more than a cold?
Or are you saying that colds = obviously sick. People don’t stay home for a cold unless it’s covid so your kid is around colds all day, every day.

[Anonymous]

Take them outside to play

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask to reschedule, but I don’t understand some pps being so angry at the parent. Different people might look at a cold-y child differently. As an elementary school teacher, I see some kids who seem to always have runny noses—I’m sure it hardly registers for their parents anymore.

COVID changed this. You cannot assume people are ok being around a kid with a cold.

[Anonymous]

What's "obviously sick"?

There are kids that have a runny nose 300 days a year.

[Anonymous]

How are you defining "sick"? And if the kid was acting his usual self than don't be deterred by the ubiquitous runny nose and post nasal drip cough

[Anonymous]

All of these people who are saying they would have people leave aren’t being bomest. It’s very hard to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do? I hinted “wow Larla sounds pretty sick” a couple of times and mom just shrugged it off and said it was a cold. It felt too rude to tell them to leave.

Either you’re going to be an adult and put the needs of your kids first or you’re going to put your own needs first and avoid the discomfort.

You chose the latter.

All you had to say was “Yeah, it looks like this isn’t going to work today. Let’s try again next week when Larla is over her cold.”

+1

FYI OP, there is always THAT family who wants to pawn their sick kid off on someone else. Just say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of these people who are saying they would have people leave aren’t being honest. It’s very hard to do that.

This. It happened to us, but our dd hangs out with her bf all day anyway. There's no way I could turn her bf away.

[Anonymous]

I always tell the other parent ahead of time if my kids have colds and ask if they’d like to reschedule. 100% of the time they’ve said it’s fine and the kids have shared germs at school anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you defining "sick"? And if the kid was acting his usual self than don't be deterred by the ubiquitous runny nose and post nasal drip cough

Yeah I don't consider a kid "sick" unless they are feverish, lethargic, or vomiting. An energetic kid with a cough/runny nose is basically par for the course in the winter and I send them to school.

[Anonymous]

I can see Larlo isn't feeling well - let's reschedule. It's obviously awkward and I've had parents claim it's allergies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was going on vacation I wouldn’t care if it was a cold.
If I was the guest though I would have told you ahead of time..it’s rude to just show up.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do? I hinted “wow Larla sounds pretty sick” a couple of times and mom just shrugged it off and said it was a cold. It felt too rude to tell them to leave.

Either you’re going to be an adult and put the needs of your kids first or you’re going to put your own needs first and avoid the discomfort.

You chose the latter.

All you had to say was “Yeah, it looks like this isn’t going to work today. Let’s try again next week when Larla is over her cold.”

Exactly! Why on earth would you allow a sick child to play with your child! Unbelievable,!! Younhsveva mouth. Use it.

[Anonymous]

I left a playdate once when the younger sibling of the kid my child was playing with seemed super sick and snotty. Younger sibling was a toddler only one parent was home, so they were going to be around the older ones. It was awkward but I said I’m so sorry lawns like the younger one is sick and I’m not comfortable- we’ll reschedule for another time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you do? I hinted “wow Larla sounds pretty sick” a couple of times and mom just shrugged it off and said it was a cold. It felt too rude to tell them to leave.

Either you’re going to be an adult and put the needs of your kids first or you’re going to put your own needs first and avoid the discomfort.

You chose the latter.

All you had to say was “Yeah, it looks like this isn’t going to work today. Let’s try again next week when Larla is over her cold.”

Exactly! Why on earth would you allow a sick child to play with your child! Unbelievable,!! Younhsveva mouth. Use it.

Maybe because the kids go to the same school? Possibly because OP’s kid is exposed to kids with colds daily?