Braggy friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to just say "yup, everyone learns at their own pace". Don't fawn over the kid who is bragging, that's what the bragger is looking for. Just respond neutrally with a "oh!" and move on.

Next work on your kid's self esteem. Compliment their hard work and things you've noticed they are working on. If this kid ruins dance for you kid, fine. Dance wasn't really for her then.

My kid has bestie who is like this. And I've noticed the bragging also really doesn't bother my kid as much as it bothers me. My kid is confidant and mostly just ignores a lot of the bragging. The longer it goes on, the more it starts to reek of insecurity, so just let the kid ramble.

DP.
This is what i do as well. My kid also has a braggy beastie. Like you, it bothers me more than it bothers her. I tried to bring it up in a very subtle way with her mom. Her mom recognized it and said it was insecurity and then proceeded to deepen the kids insecurity by making her do twice as many private lessons for all the activities than the other kids do. I think it sends the kid the message that her value is derived from her accomplishments. The mom thinks she's helping but the kid has gotten much much worse the past couple years. She's even braggy to me whenever she gets a chance. She's 9; it's so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to just say "yup, everyone learns at their own pace". Don't fawn over the kid who is bragging, that's what the bragger is looking for. Just respond neutrally with a "oh!" and move on.

Next work on your kid's self esteem. Compliment their hard work and things you've noticed they are working on. If this kid ruins dance for you kid, fine. Dance wasn't really for her then.

My kid has bestie who is like this. And I've noticed the bragging also really doesn't bother my kid as much as it bothers me. My kid is confidant and mostly just ignores a lot of the bragging. The longer it goes on, the more it starts to reek of insecurity, so just let the kid ramble.

DP.
This is what i do as well. My kid also has a braggy beastie. Like you, it bothers me more than it bothers her. I tried to bring it up in a very subtle way with her mom. Her mom recognized it and said it was insecurity and then proceeded to deepen the kids insecurity by making her do twice as many private lessons for all the activities than the other kids do. I think it sends the kid the message that her value is derived from her accomplishments. The mom thinks she's helping but the kid has gotten much much worse the past couple years. She's even braggy to me whenever she gets a chance. She's 9; it's so sad.

There is also proud and bragging. I have 3 kids. I have sporty kids. Pretty much every kid we know is also sporty with various skill levels. My kids are pretty good athletes but not D1 college recruit type athletic. I don’t think I brag about them because I personally don’t think they are exceptional. Most people are like us. Then there are parents who seem overly involved and/or naive in thinking their kid is more talented than they actually are. I’m not sure if they are bragging or totally clueless when they talk about their kid’s sport and how good they are when are not THAT good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to just say "yup, everyone learns at their own pace". Don't fawn over the kid who is bragging, that's what the bragger is looking for. Just respond neutrally with a "oh!" and move on.

Next work on your kid's self esteem. Compliment their hard work and things you've noticed they are working on. If this kid ruins dance for you kid, fine. Dance wasn't really for her then.

My kid has bestie who is like this. And I've noticed the bragging also really doesn't bother my kid as much as it bothers me. My kid is confidant and mostly just ignores a lot of the bragging. The longer it goes on, the more it starts to reek of insecurity, so just let the kid ramble.

DP.
This is what i do as well. My kid also has a braggy beastie. Like you, it bothers me more than it bothers her. I tried to bring it up in a very subtle way with her mom. Her mom recognized it and said it was insecurity and then proceeded to deepen the kids insecurity by making her do twice as many private lessons for all the activities than the other kids do. I think it sends the kid the message that her value is derived from her accomplishments. The mom thinks she's helping but the kid has gotten much much worse the past couple years. She's even braggy to me whenever she gets a chance. She's 9; it's so sad.

There is also proud and bragging. I have 3 kids. I have sporty kids. Pretty much every kid we know is also sporty with various skill levels. My kids are pretty good athletes but not D1 college recruit type athletic. I don’t think I brag about them because I personally don’t think they are exceptional. Most people are like us. Then there are parents who seem overly involved and/or naive in thinking their kid is more talented than they actually are. I’m not sure if they are bragging or totally clueless when they talk about their kid’s sport and how good they are when are not THAT good.

Agree. Proud is different than bragging. I'm proud my kid goes all out in sports despite being in the middle of the pack. In swimming my kid always looks to beat their personal best - that makes me proud. I don't check the stats because I literally don't care. I care that my kid works hard and is happy. (I also know my kid is competitive-ish....Middle of the road in a competitive league - not college material. I was a D1 athlete and can recognize it in other kids).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like to just say "yup, everyone learns at their own pace". Don't fawn over the kid who is bragging, that's what the bragger is looking for. Just respond neutrally with a "oh!" and move on.

Next work on your kid's self esteem. Compliment their hard work and things you've noticed they are working on. If this kid ruins dance for you kid, fine. Dance wasn't really for her then.

My kid has bestie who is like this. And I've noticed the bragging also really doesn't bother my kid as much as it bothers me. My kid is confidant and mostly just ignores a lot of the bragging. The longer it goes on, the more it starts to reek of insecurity, so just let the kid ramble.

DP.
This is what i do as well. My kid also has a braggy beastie. Like you, it bothers me more than it bothers her. I tried to bring it up in a very subtle way with her mom. Her mom recognized it and said it was insecurity and then proceeded to deepen the kids insecurity by making her do twice as many private lessons for all the activities than the other kids do. I think it sends the kid the message that her value is derived from her accomplishments. The mom thinks she's helping but the kid has gotten much much worse the past couple years. She's even braggy to me whenever she gets a chance. She's 9; it's so sad.

Op here. This is this mom 100%. Her solution is to bombard her kid with extra classes and private lessons. I also tbh m it’s made this much worse with the bragging.

[Anonymous]

lol teach your daughter the “Sure, Jan” meme

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol teach your daughter the “Sure, Jan” meme

Op here. I lol’d at this