Do you ever lie to your friends about your adult children's accomplishments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

This was definitely a deliberate lie. My friend didn't forget where her son lived or with whom he lived.

I don't care about that, but I do care that she lied. It's weird.

I don’t think PP was responding to your earlier post, but you seem strangely vested in your friend’s adult son’s life and on tattling here. Maybe she lied because she realized you’re gossipy like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol, no. I don’t really talk about my adult kid’s accomplishments. It’s their lives to talk about, not mine.

If someone asks, what do you tell?

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I mean, my kids are well-known for their accomplishments. I don't need to lie or brag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

This was definitely a deliberate lie. My friend didn't forget where her son lived or with whom he lived.

I don't care about that, but I do care that she lied. It's weird.

I don’t think PP was responding to your earlier post, but you seem strangely vested in your friend’s adult son’s life and on tattling here. Maybe she lied because she realized you’re gossipy like that?

No, she was trying to wrangle an invite to a family event.

I'm asking on here because this is an anonymous site. Gossiping would be asking people that she knows or outing her. This could be anyone. That is why I didn't give personal details.

[Anonymous]

My FIL used to put so much BS about DH and BIL in his nightmare Christmas letter that DH finally told him not to mention us at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: a friend recently told me a story about her adult son that was verifiably not true.

I didn't let on that I knew she wasn't telling the truth, but her son has a social media account and knows my adult son. She didn't know that her son had shared publicly some personal information or, even if she did, she must have thought that I wouldn't know. I wasn't checking up on her, but when people post on social media, it's difficult to ignore what gets circled around in people's feeds.

I won't out the story she shared, the truth, or why it was obvious that she was lying. I just can't help but see her differently knowing that she would do this.

Maybe she didn’t know herself? Or maybe the online version is not the true one?

Sometimes it’s complicated, OP.

[Anonymous]

No! We are blessed to have three kids doing very well and I’m sensitive that others may not be as fortunate as we are. Bragging is bad, lying would be worse.

[Anonymous]

No, I really don't lie. I may not share when something isn't going well but usually that's because it's not my news to share. Honestly it just doesn't come up that much now that the kids are adults other than with people who are parents of their friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well both my kids families moved states entirely this summer so we had to say something about their move and new jobs.

Plus we watched the various grandkids for a few weeks whilst the moving trucks did their thing and parents unpacked.

It was fun but exhausting and we didn’t see our friends for a month really:

Did you read the question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

I think this is very true. My father used to always tell people that I was in computers/a programmer. No idea why that seemed to be stuck in his head. I'm an engineer and I work in aerospace/defense. I don't think it mattered that much one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

I think this is very true. My father used to always tell people that I was in computers/a programmer. No idea why that seemed to be stuck in his head. I'm an engineer and I work in aerospace/defense. I don't think it mattered that much one way or the other.

OP here: that definitely sounds like an honest mistake. It's easy to get technical fields mixed up if you don't know much about them.

I don't want to give this friend's personal details, but I'm glad to see that most other people don't deliberately lie to their friends about their kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, no. I don’t really talk about my adult kid’s accomplishments. It’s their lives to talk about, not mine.

If someone asks, what do you tell?

Asks what? How my adult child is doing? The answer is fine.

If/when the time comes, I would share any big news like marriage, birth of a child or getting a graduate degree. But other than that, what's there to tell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My FIL used to put so much BS about DH and BIL in his nightmare Christmas letter that DH finally told him not to mention us at all.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well both my kids families moved states entirely this summer so we had to say something about their move and new jobs.

Plus we watched the various grandkids for a few weeks whilst the moving trucks did their thing and parents unpacked.

It was fun but exhausting and we didn’t see our friends for a month really:

Did you read the question?

Yes I read the question.

No I don’t lie. Both our kids have major promotions this year and relocated states into great communities and schools for their families. One got the job she always wanted. Moving was a heavy lift but we were happy to help with the grandkids and have already visited them both.

So no we don’t lie nor exaggerate nor avoid. Unless it’s clear someone else needs to vent or has some issues .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

This was definitely a deliberate lie. My friend didn't forget where her son lived or with whom he lived.

I don't care about that, but I do care that she lied. It's weird.

I don’t think PP was responding to your earlier post, but you seem strangely vested in your friend’s adult son’s life and on tattling here. Maybe she lied because she realized you’re gossipy like that?

No, she was trying to wrangle an invite to a family event.

I'm asking on here because this is an anonymous site. Gossiping would be asking people that she knows or outing her. This could be anyone. That is why I didn't give personal details.

Not everyone can get a wedding invite, some are very small venues or budgets or desires.