Do you ever lie to your friends about your adult children's accomplishments?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering how common this is.

[Anonymous]

Based on the posts around here? I’d guess very common.

[Anonymous]

Why aren't your child's actual accomplishments good enough for you?

[Anonymous]

three adult kids. no, there is no reason to.

[Anonymous]

I have noticed that often people kind of just stop talking about their kids at the same level of intensity. When people ask how your kids are you can just say fine. You don’t really need to elaborate if you don’t want to share. I am at the stage where I am not disappointed but maybe worried? Will they find live? Get promoted? Go back to school etc? Sometimes it’s better not to share.

I read somewhere that parents may only talk about the child who is”on track” and just not talk about the other child z seems accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that often people kind of just stop talking about their kids at the same level of intensity. When people ask how your kids are you can just say fine. You don’t really need to elaborate if you don’t want to share. I am at the stage where I am not disappointed but maybe worried? Will they find live? Get promoted? Go back to school etc? Sometimes it’s better not to share.

I read somewhere that parents may only talk about the child who is”on track” and just not talk about the other child z seems accurate.

Or there’s nothing interring to say, and parents finally realized it. Still working. Still married.

[Anonymous]

OP here: a friend recently told me a story about her adult son that was verifiably not true.

I didn't let on that I knew she wasn't telling the truth, but her son has a social media account and knows my adult son. She didn't know that her son had shared publicly some personal information or, even if she did, she must have thought that I wouldn't know. I wasn't checking up on her, but when people post on social media, it's difficult to ignore what gets circled around in people's feeds.

I won't out the story she shared, the truth, or why it was obvious that she was lying. I just can't help but see her differently knowing that she would do this.

[Anonymous]

Lol, no. I don’t really talk about my adult kid’s accomplishments. It’s their lives to talk about, not mine.

[Anonymous]

Well both my kids families moved states entirely this summer so we had to say something about their move and new jobs.

Plus we watched the various grandkids for a few weeks whilst the moving trucks did their thing and parents unpacked.

It was fun but exhausting and we didn’t see our friends for a month really:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wondering how common this is.

We downplay their accomplishments so we don't look boastful and people don't feel jealous. Why create negative vibes? Every parent loves their kid.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, most people are truthful. Some may highlight things in a better light but no one lies.

[Anonymous]

As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As parents get older they tend to get details wrong, I've noticed. They'll use a job title that is wrong, get the company name wrong, overstate a role because they don't actually know how the kid's company is structured, and so on. Same with kids sports.

This was definitely a deliberate lie. My friend didn't forget where her son lived or with whom he lived.

I don't care about that, but I do care that she lied. It's weird.

[Anonymous]

How do you know that the adult child didn't lie to her?

[Anonymous]

You seem oddly invested and a bit of a stalker.