Post-divorce Relationships 101

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in your shoes. I went on on a handful of dates off Bumble. Most were fun, some were better than others. I did drinks or coffee dates.

I was up front in my bio about what I was looking for. And I was very selective about who I swiped on, based on what they marked on their profile.

Went out on a third date only with one of them. Then a fourth, and then we were physically intimate.

I was looking for physical intimacy, but also some emotional and intellectual intimacy. I just am never getting married or living with someone again.

What I have with this man is great. Regular fun and it’s been great to get to know someone like this again. And the sex has been the best in my life. We both have busy lives (our custody schedules also don’t line up super great), but we see each other once or twice a week, and text or talk ever day).

This sounds so perfect! I'm older, but old guys just don't do it for me. But I refuse to lie about my age.

I’m late 40s and I put 40-52 as the age range of profiles I wanted to see. I stopped looking at who “liked” me, because it was primarily much younger, so you won’t have a problem with that if you wanted it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only been with guys willing to use condoms. No guy has refused or seemed surprised by the request.

This. And if a guy did object, I would stop dating him immediately. Very bad sign.

+1. I may be old - over 55 - but consent and mutual safety are a necessary (but not sufficient) component of mutually pleasurable sex.

I guy who won't wear a condom or use other safe sex practices is just sending a message that his pleasure is more important than my safety.

Yuck. I am deeply uninterested in men like that.

[Anonymous]

There’s a few posters on here (I won’t speculate on gender) who push the idea for women that first date condomless sex is the norm or else you are doomed to a life of loneliness and cats. This assertion is incorrect.

- woman with plenty of OLD experience, whose friends also OLD, who find this not true or easy to screen out