BCC Homecoming dance - what to wear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

My DD does 2 club sports, has always been on honor roll, works PT and volunteers. She and her friends wear clothes that make them feel beautiful and fashionable (yeahh - bare-ly there is in fashion) and she and they don’t really care what you think.

Is it not worrisome to you that your teenage daughter needs to dress like pp’s “streetwalker” to make herself feel beautiful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

Yes but your oh-so-wise daughter equally does not get to dictate how other people assess (aka “judge”) her, based on what she chooses to wear.

If you’re not teaching her that reality, you are failing as her mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

Yes but your oh-so-wise daughter equally does not get to dictate how other people assess (aka “judge”) her, based on what she chooses to wear.

If you’re not teaching her that reality, you are failing as her mother.

Yeah, I’m surprised by some of the outfits the parents let the girls wear.

[Anonymous]

Our school the boys wear jackets and dress pants. Their dates wear...very little. But whatever they're 16 and it's what makes them comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

Yes but your oh-so-wise daughter equally does not get to dictate how other people assess (aka “judge”) her, based on what she chooses to wear.

If you’re not teaching her that reality, you are failing as her mother.

Not PP, but I think you missed the point. Of course anybody can assess/judge people based on whatever criteria they choose. You can judge someone based on their weight, their choice of shoes, their skin color, their taste in music, the car they drive, etc. Heck, DCUM is full of people judging people for all kinds of reason.....and posters responding that said reason is not a good one.

I'm teaching my daughter that other people's opinions are exactly that, and not something to concern herself with. I'm not failing her as a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

Yes but your oh-so-wise daughter equally does not get to dictate how other people assess (aka “judge”) her, based on what she chooses to wear.

If you’re not teaching her that reality, you are failing as her mother.

Not PP, but I think you missed the point. Of course anybody can assess/judge people based on whatever criteria they choose. You can judge someone based on their weight, their choice of shoes, their skin color, their taste in music, the car they drive, etc. Heck, DCUM is full of people judging people for all kinds of reason.....and posters responding that said reason is not a good one.

I'm teaching my daughter that other people's opinions are exactly that, and not something to concern herself with. I'm not failing her as a mother.

Some of these other people will, at some point, matter to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

I agree that they are dressing like hookers.

Spend a lot of time with hookers, do you?

[Anonymous]

Burkas. We need burkas. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

Yes but your oh-so-wise daughter equally does not get to dictate how other people assess (aka “judge”) her, based on what she chooses to wear.

If you’re not teaching her that reality, you are failing as her mother.

Not PP, but I think you missed the point. Of course anybody can assess/judge people based on whatever criteria they choose. You can judge someone based on their weight, their choice of shoes, their skin color, their taste in music, the car they drive, etc. Heck, DCUM is full of people judging people for all kinds of reason.....and posters responding that said reason is not a good one.

I'm teaching my daughter that other people's opinions are exactly that, and not something to concern herself with. I'm not failing her as a mother.

Some of these other people will, at some point, matter to her.

Sure they will! And in fact they already do. For example, her grandmother didn’t approve of her dress and her grandmother matters to her very much. It is this opinion that does not matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Burkas. We need burkas. Problem solved.

We might be able to find a happy medium between burkas, and displaying your mulieris pudenda like there is an everything-must-go sale at a the fish-mongers…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

I am old too, but my daughter taught me something - her body is her body to be displayed and decorated in any way she feels appropriate. No one should judge her as slutty, or looking like a hooker or unprofessional, and if they do that is their problem not hers. No school official should criticize her for showing any part of her body because their focus should be on whether she is learning not what she is wearing. If other people can’t learn because of what she is wearing or how she is presenting, then that is their problem. They should learn to mind their own business and focus on their own work.

TBH, my DD is right about this. It is time to stop judging girls for their clothes, their appearance and their bodies. Just shush up and let them learn.

And don’t rebut this by arguing that they have to learn to dress “appropriately” for the real work world. We just went thru a pandemic where people “went to work” in nap dresses, pajama bottoms and fuzzy rabbit slippers and still managed to do their job just fine. A lot of the time they were just a black grid in a sea of grids at a Zoom meeting and they were still producing work.

This is also true in the US Senate. Stop focusing on what people are wearing and just focus on whether they are doing their work.

I swear if my kid’s teacher put as much energy into providing feedback on an essay as they do in inspecting for stray bra straps or the length of her shorts, we would be raising a generation of Einsteins.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burkas. We need burkas. Problem solved.

We might be able to find a happy medium between burkas, and displaying your mulieris pudenda like there is an everything-must-go sale at a the fish-mongers…

Yes. It used to be called having class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burkas. We need burkas. Problem solved.

We might be able to find a happy medium between burkas, and displaying your mulieris pudenda like there is an everything-must-go sale at a the fish-mongers…

Yes. It used to be called having class.

When the wealthy white men got to make all the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS attended last night in a coat and tie.

At pickup I was amazed that 99% of the girls I saw out walking were dressed in less than streetwalkers I have seen near Times Square. Glad I have no daughters.

Don't high schools have dress codes any more? (Yes, I am old.)

There are no dress codes. I hate how my daughter dresses (for homecoming she has a nice dress but in general). Last week a female security guard at her HS told DD to cover her butt (the shorts were very short) but they have no way to enforce. They all wear tank tops to school.

Stop expecting the school to parent your daughter and tell her to dress appropriately and give consequents. This is a parenting issue.