Does cheating on a spouse hurt your professional reputation?

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Anonymous wrote:was this a teaser for the Kristi Noem news? lol.

what's the news?

enjoy! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12509093/Kristin-Noem-Corey-Lewandowski-secret-affair.html

LOL. If she upset by the timing because it's politically motivated, she should have broke it years ago.

Seriously, they can never talk about family values again.

Effing hypocrites, they're so gross. Oh, and he's married to a 9/11 widow and has four children.

[Anonymous]

When I worked in a lit div at DOJ a married guy (multiple little kids) in our office was having an affair with another lawyer in our office. It was obvious, and correlation isn't causation but he was never given good cases after that (nor was his AP, but she was never given good cases anyway).

[Anonymous]

IC folks can lose their jobs because it puts their clearance at risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for men bad for women, as you’d expect.

This is what I think too. I feel like the old boys club laughs about it and uses it as a bonding thing. The woman just gets ostracized.

+1

I think it undermines women and they’re judged more harshly than men. For men, I think it’s like oh well, boys will boys. I don’t think it’s fair, but I think that’s what I’ve seen in my corporate career.

[Anonymous]

Didn't Corey Lewendowski have a romantic fling with Hope Hicks? Guess he has a type.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good for men bad for women, as you’d expect.

This is what I think too. I feel like the old boys club laughs about it and uses it as a bonding thing. The woman just gets ostracized.

This is the case for every affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:in professions where people are enmeshed in each others' lives.

Example?

[Anonymous]

Definitely not in sales or realtors. No one would have a reputation left after work trips or travel conferences

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not in sales or realtors. No one would have a reputation left after work trips or travel conferences

This doesn’t apply to women as their looks are what matter in affairs and those looks are a depreciating asset. And I know you say this as a slam on those occupations, but the traits that make a man a superstar professionally are the ones that make him more likely to step out successfully.

If I hear of some drone who’s been faithful to his homely wife for thirty years, I want to know what’s wrong with this guy. If he’s so boring he can’t find an AP, why would I want to hire him.

A high-quality AP goes with a man’s professional success like a shot of gin goes with a tonic. At a certain level of professional achievement he’s earned the right to this arrangement. Frankly, it’s naive and even low-class to come in like some Sunday School graduate and wag your finger at a professional who achieves more in one year than the little moralist will in a career. Do better.