What does it mean when a guy says he didn’t feel a connection?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly that.

It could be physical, you’re just not his type. But not necessarily. Sometimes it’s vibes.

Haven’t you ever felt that way about a man? I have. I’ve been on both sides of the no-connection thing. Think about the last time you went on a first or second date and, while there’s nothing WRONG with the guy, you’re just not all that excited about him? When a third date would sound like a meeting or an appointment, rather than a date.

That’s how the guy feels.

No, I always understand why I feel that way. It's not vague.

Well yeah, I’m sure he knows why as well, but is kind enough to keep things vague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means he would prefer not to wear a condom.

It means the opposite. Her eggs aren't good enough for his sp**m.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly that.

It could be physical, you’re just not his type. But not necessarily. Sometimes it’s vibes.

Haven’t you ever felt that way about a man? I have. I’ve been on both sides of the no-connection thing. Think about the last time you went on a first or second date and, while there’s nothing WRONG with the guy, you’re just not all that excited about him? When a third date would sound like a meeting or an appointment, rather than a date.

That’s how the guy feels.

No, I always understand why I feel that way. It's not vague.

Well yeah, I’m sure he knows why as well, but is kind enough to keep things vague.

This. OP, it usually is best when people don't spell this out for each other.

[Anonymous]

That he’s just not that into you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

You did nothing wrong and it was kind of him to end it like this versus ghosting which is so common. He is telling you there was no spark, attraction on his end.

[Anonymous]

It means "no."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not attracted, doesn't want a second date, but doesn't think you're a horrible person.

Yes this.
It’s not a code.
It’s just a polite way to say he wishes you well but you aren’t a match for him.

for more insight, I recommend (non-ironically) reading the book “He’s Just Not That Into You”
It’s a little dated by now but might be helpful anyway.

[Anonymous]

It means he doesn't want to go on a second date with you and is not interested in dating you.

Don't overthink this. Move on. Focus your energy elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

It means: He's not into you, MOVE ON.

[Anonymous]

The pictures didn't match real life.

[Anonymous]

Better to have someone say it now than you waste your time. It just wasn’t a fit. You move on and meet the next one! Keep your chin up! Don’t let this bother you for one second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Went on a date recently with a guy and he texted me afterwards and said he had a good time, but didn’t feel a deep connection between us. What does that even mean? This is the second time this has happened to me, so wondering if it’s something I did. What do guys mean by this?

it means not interested. the same thing it means when women say it to men. wtf

My thoughts exactly. why is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not attracted, doesn't want a second date, but doesn't think you're a horrible person.

Yes this.
It’s not a code.
It’s just a polite way to say he wishes you well but you aren’t a match for him.

for more insight, I recommend (non-ironically) reading the book “He’s Just Not That Into You”
It’s a little dated by now but might be helpful anyway.

Gosh no!. We're beyond thinking now. Please stop suggesting this book and the other one

[Anonymous]

He's letting you know he's not interested in a very nice way. Accept it and move on, even though I know it's hard if you felt a connection.

[Anonymous]

Not compatible in some way or no chemistry - not something they want to pursue any further.