What does it mean when a guy says he didn’t feel a connection?

[Anonymous]

Went on a date recently with a guy and he texted me afterwards and said he had a good time, but didn’t feel a deep connection between us. What does that even mean? This is the second time this has happened to me, so wondering if it’s something I did. What do guys mean by this?

[Anonymous]

It means you’re not the one for them. Don’t overthink it - just move on.

[Anonymous]

Not attracted, doesn't want a second date, but doesn't think you're a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

It’s just a way of saying that he doesn’t want to see you again without having to explain it further.

[Anonymous]

Agree with above. It shows good character of him to let you know rather than ghosting. I like following alittlenudge on IG. She has great dating advice.

[Anonymous]

I think it's aka, we are not on the "same wavelength".
It's good they don't waste your time.
They are doing you a favor.

[Anonymous]

It just means he's not interested in you. I'm sure you've met people who you've felt that way with. Its nothing you or he did and it's really nothing bad. Btw its not a guys only thing. When I was single I would have used this to describe why I didn't want to go on a second date with a guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Went on a date recently with a guy and he texted me afterwards and said he had a good time, but didn’t feel a deep connection between us. What does that even mean? This is the second time this has happened to me, so wondering if it’s something I did. What do guys mean by this?

it means not interested. the same thing it means when women say it to men. wtf

[Anonymous]

It means exactly that.

It could be physical, you’re just not his type. But not necessarily. Sometimes it’s vibes.

Haven’t you ever felt that way about a man? I have. I’ve been on both sides of the no-connection thing. Think about the last time you went on a first or second date and, while there’s nothing WRONG with the guy, you’re just not all that excited about him? When a third date would sound like a meeting or an appointment, rather than a date.

That’s how the guy feels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly that.

It could be physical, you’re just not his type. But not necessarily. Sometimes it’s vibes.

Haven’t you ever felt that way about a man? I have. I’ve been on both sides of the no-connection thing. Think about the last time you went on a first or second date and, while there’s nothing WRONG with the guy, you’re just not all that excited about him? When a third date would sound like a meeting or an appointment, rather than a date.

That’s how the guy feels.

No, I always understand why I feel that way. It's not vague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means you’re not the one for them. Don’t overthink it - just move on.

+1

You're not doing anything wrong! Just first dates doing exactly what they're supposed to do.

[Anonymous]

No chemistry. Next!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It means you’re not the one for them. Don’t overthink it - just move on.

+1

You're not doing anything wrong! Just first dates doing exactly what they're supposed to do.

Honestly, 9 out of 10 dates should be like this. I mean how many people do you have chemistry with in real life? Also, people are dating for a purpose, so even if they "like" you but don't "like like" you, they're not interested in hanging out and being friends or investing time to see if something will grow. This guy is being respectful of your time and honest about his feelings. You don't need to know more. It affects you but it's not about you, and it's nothing you can or should try to change.

[Anonymous]

It means that he’s mature enough to let you know that he’s not interested — in a very polite way. Good guy!

[Anonymous]

It means he would prefer not to wear a condom.