Will it hurt my kid if I don’t attend parent events

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hugs, OP. It’s a lot. Do back to school night and things your DC performs in etc. Any way you can divide and conquer with your spouse/partner?

You can’t assume OP has a partner. Her statement that she is barely getting by suggests to me that she is a single parent,
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OP, there are many other ways to meet parents in your class. Unless your kids are young and having a hard time making friends and need you to help, play dates are usually requested by the kids themselves.

School involvement helps in relation to volunteering but no one cares whether you attend a specific event or not. We’re at two Bug 3s where fundraising events are huge. Probably only about a third of the parent body attend the fundraising parties.

Oh here we go … always have to find something to get snarky about. You also can’t assume that only single parents have these problems …

[Anonymous]

Yes, you've added at least $100k (2022 dollars) to their future therapy bills

[Anonymous]

This is kind of a spin off but why do so many people have three kids at three different schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is kind of a spin off but why do so many people have three kids at three different schools?

Because of some weird obsession about “fit” - like it really matters. It’s the kid, not the school. Don’t get me wrong, I advocate for private if you have the means, but within the private world, it’s insane to send 3 kids to 3 different schools due to “fit.”

[Anonymous]

. You will be frozen out of the Chevy mom’s speed golf tournaments! But maybe your DC is strong enough socially to break through anyway.

[Anonymous]

It will definitely not hurt your child not to go, but I have found that it does help/benefit your child to attend events and be involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will definitely not hurt your child not to go, but I have found that it does help/benefit your child to attend events and be involved.

Your kid is in elementary right? It doesn't matter by high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our school has a welcome reception, homecoming and other parent and alumni oriented events like golf tournaments and fundraisers. I really don’t want to attend these events. I have 3 kids at 3 different schools and I’m barely getting by.

I’m happy to meet parents of my kids’ friends but it is overwhelming the number of events for parents between the three schools.

You should attend some events for sure. Need to become part of the community. It will affect your child if you are not.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Unfortunately it’s the same as networking but for your kids. Making sure you meet enough parents (especially when your kid is young) to foster play dates and relationships so they get invited to things, so you are known to administrative staff and are seen as part of the community

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will definitely not hurt your child not to go, but I have found that it does help/benefit your child to attend events and be involved.

Your kid is in elementary right? It doesn't matter by high school.

Actually I have 2 in college and 1 in high school. All my kids went to private school and it has always been a benefit to be involved. It helps when the coach knows you are a trusted team parent who can be counted on to help, it helps when the theater director knows that you are a fine arts booster, etc.

[Anonymous]

One ought not feel obliged to attend every parent event, but it often is helpful if one can attend some. Separately, it always important to respond to invitations which indicate a response is requested.