Recommend Executive Function for my 14 yo DS

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus is this really a thing?!?!

How did we all survive lol

For kids with ADHD, it can be a huge problem. Our child's Executive Function coach made everything better, from our child getting their homework done and turned in on time, to saving our relationship, as we weren't constantly nagging

Ditto for our DD with ADHD!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus is this really a thing?!?!

How did we all survive lol

YES! Having these skills is super important in life! Some kids know them and some need to be taught. If OP's kid is struggling she should absolutely be asking for resources, coach included.

+1 Schools are not teaching these skills, which are among the most important skills for success in life. Some kids need to be explicitly taught the skills.

THIS!

Why so? Schools should mainly teach content. Teachers shouldn't be expected to spend significant time teaching this at the expense of content. Why wouldn't parents be able to teach their kids how to be organized and do their homework? This is something that is naturally done at home. To me it feels that the current generation of parents are lazier than prior generations when it comes to spending more time with their kids and teaching them basic things such as this. Parents have more money and an expectation that someone else other than them, such as teachers or outside paid consultants should basically 'baby' their kids, because for some reason they cannot or don't want to.

+1 I think people really do have less time because of double earner families. It is puzzling for me also to see how much money these parents are willing to throw money at daycare, reading coaches, handwriting coach, tutors for ES-level instruction, aftercare, take out, housecleaners, instacart, babysitters, dog walkers, doggy daycare. The cost of all of this to stand in place of a SAHP or extended family. To each their own though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus is this really a thing?!?!

How did we all survive lol

Not op. First, I don’t know about you, but I had less complicated system than my dd does. I find the online systems and homework harder to follow up compared to what we had when we had textbooks & somehow a leaner barrage of online to do’s, assignments and systems.

Second, there was less awareness, and some kids didn’t manage or had to put considerable effort just to stay afloat.

If OP can simplify her child’s life by getting him help and instruction in these skills, what’s wrong with that? Trial and error and learning by failing are not the only valid options for learning skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus is this really a thing?!?!

How did we all survive lol

Not op. First, I don’t know about you, but I had less complicated system than my dd does. I find the online systems and homework harder to follow up compared to what we had when we had textbooks & somehow a leaner barrage of online to do’s, assignments and systems.

Second, there was less awareness, and some kids didn’t manage or had to put considerable effort just to stay afloat.

If OP can simplify her child’s life by getting him help and instruction in these skills, what’s wrong with that? Trial and error and learning by failing are not the only valid options for learning skills.

Yep. It isn't worth having us as parents fight a battle when we can outsource it to a professional.

Thank you to the pps who recommended the two people!

[Anonymous]

Just curious, how do you know your kid lacks exec function skills? Does being forgetful always means that?

[Anonymous]

Additionally, kids need to hear messages from different adults in their lives. They will reject messages about discipline, organization and planning from their parents cause they view it as nagging, but take that as sage wisdom from a teacher, tutor or coach.

So that's why it can be worth paying someone else to teach them those skills because the kids are more receptive to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious, how do you know your kid lacks exec function skills? Does being forgetful always means that?

My kid's exec function challenges are beyond just being forgetful or having organizational challenges. Kid has trouble holding in emotions/emotional regulation. The exec function group we did in late elementary was very much oriented toward emotional issues. https://www.theottoolbox.com/emotional-regulation-and-executive-function/

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the group. Is there something like this for academics?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus is this really a thing?!?!

How did we all survive lol

YES! Having these skills is super important in life! Some kids know them and some need to be taught. If OP's kid is struggling she should absolutely be asking for resources, coach included.

+1 Schools are not teaching these skills, which are among the most important skills for success in life. Some kids need to be explicitly taught the skills.

THIS!

Why so? Schools should mainly teach content. Teachers shouldn't be expected to spend significant time teaching this at the expense of content. Why wouldn't parents be able to teach their kids how to be organized and do their homework? This is something that is naturally done at home. To me it feels that the current generation of parents are lazier than prior generations when it comes to spending more time with their kids and teaching them basic things such as this. Parents have more money and an expectation that someone else other than them, such as teachers or outside paid consultants should basically 'baby' their kids, because for some reason they cannot or don't want to.

+1 I think people really do have less time because of double earner families. It is puzzling for me also to see how much money these parents are willing to throw money at daycare, reading coaches, handwriting coach, tutors for ES-level instruction, aftercare, take out, housecleaners, instacart, babysitters, dog walkers, doggy daycare. The cost of all of this to stand in place of a SAHP or extended family. To each their own though.

I don't want to stay at home--my career is important to me. I also don't expect my mom or another family member (my MIL lives with us) to do any of what you listed. I pay someone to clean, occasionally do take out or Instacart, and in the past, nursery school/daycare because I don't want to do it or don't have to because I can afford it. Simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Look at Essig Education Group and Lauren Eckert Coaching (now Life Solved Coaching).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paul Rivas is excellent with boys this age.

Can I please have his contact information? I too am looking for help in Clarksburg/Gaithersburg area

[Anonymous]

These skills definitely need to be taught. I so would've benefited from this growing up! I wish schools would teach these life skills more than some of the advanced math few students use day to day.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone know why these skills aren't taught? These and personal finance are crucial concepts!

[Anonymous]

Put something out on your school list serv that you are looking for an EF coach
Ask your school counseling office
Put something out on NextDoor
Mention it to every friend group you have - you'll be surprised that chances are several of your friends children already have an EF coach

To everyone NOT offering help and support, eff-off. Until you've experienced a child with ADHD, you have no idea what you are talking about. OP is doing the right thing for her child.

~been there done that. ADHD kid is successful in college, and has support from the office of disabilities (all colleges have them) and years of support in MCPS with an EF coach

[Anonymous]

You can ask on the special needs forum.