Recommend Executive Function for my 14 yo DS
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Can anyone recommend a great executive function tutor for my 8th grader? He's smart, sporty, but has a tough time getting organized and we fight when DH or I try to work with him. Would love for a tutor to sit down with him to help teach him some organizational skills.
TY! |
Anonymous
Does he have a phone? Take it away and see how executive functioning improves. |
Anonymous
| We’re happy! I can send details if you email me. Ally.Rachel.Greenberg@gmail.com |
Anonymous
| Paul Rivas is excellent with boys this age. |
Anonymous
| What have you tried so far? For us, having things that DD could do without us being directly involved was great and provided her autonomy. |
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Jesus is this really a thing?!?!
How did we all survive lol |
Anonymous
YES! Having these skills is super important in life! Some kids know them and some need to be taught. If OP's kid is struggling she should absolutely be asking for resources, coach included. |
Anonymous
+1 Schools are not teaching these skills, which are among the most important skills for success in life. Some kids need to be explicitly taught the skills. |
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THIS! |
Anonymous
It's nice to look for a tutor, but you should nip the fighting with you in the bud. Is it natural for kids to want to distance from parents? Yes. But it doesn't excuse bad behavior, and when someone is trying to help you, you should learn to be gracious. |
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Why so? Schools should mainly teach content. Teachers shouldn't be expected to spend significant time teaching this at the expense of content. Why wouldn't parents be able to teach their kids how to be organized and do their homework? This is something that is naturally done at home. To me it feels that the current generation of parents are lazier than prior generations when it comes to spending more time with their kids and teaching them basic things such as this. Parents have more money and an expectation that someone else other than them, such as teachers or outside paid consultants should basically 'baby' their kids, because for some reason they cannot or don't want to. |
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Thank you. Just emailed you. |
Anonymous
Agree to a point. Nip the fighting by realizing you have a teen and you want to keep your relationship and increase your child’s motivation. Force, punishment, conflict are not going to help him develop his skills nor will it help your relationship. I’m not a permissive parent but I did learn a lot about the importance of connecting with your child as the first line of defense in just about anything- not serous issues like drugs etc perhaps. Don’t let the school work fighting define the relationship. Read Stevens and Stixrid book about The Self Driven child. Read Lisa Damour’s book about the Emotional Lives of teenagers. Nothing wrong with identifying Some skills that are weak and addressing them- and exec function coaches can be great. Also realize he may have a way that eventually works for him that wouldn’t work for you. Ideally what you want is a kid who has skills, and can adjust when those skills aren’t fitting the issue and another option is needed. |
Anonymous
For kids with ADHD, it can be a huge problem. Our child's Executive Function coach made everything better, from our child getting their homework done and turned in on time, to saving our relationship, as we weren't constantly nagging |
Anonymous
+1 I have a 5th grader with ADHD that struggles with things like Executive function and even loosing things in the house. Depending on how next year goes with middle school we will certainly be looking for a coach to put some things in place early and help us understand how to best support him. Please share any coaching recommendations |