Eating out with our neighbors is ALWAYS weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This gotta be troll right?

I hope so. I’ve never heard of customers forcing their way into the kitchen and trying to talk to the line cooks. Super weird.

[Anonymous]

Say you recently found out you have some pretty severe food allergies and that you would prefer preparing at home, where you have control over the ingredients and prep/possible cross contamination.

[Anonymous]

Say you’re busy or just smile and enjoy the free meal. Get an appetizer, fancy drink, entree, and dessert. Who gives a shit what this old fart does?

[Anonymous]

I think you should focus on this not being an enjoyable encounter for you. Is this how you want to spend your time? I sure would not because his behavior majorly reduced the joy this activity (eating out with friends). You can still be engaging otherwise but no longer go out to eat with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tipping extra is a nice gesture. He sounds autistic and hyper focused on food prep. I would also give your friend grace. Maybe alert the restaurant in advance so they can prepare however best they can. But at the end of the day, you control you and can decide who you want to be in that situation. If you want out, then you’ll have to come up with an excuse that you can accept.

Not every rude and oblivious person is autistic and not every autistic person is rude and oblivious. My young adult autistic ds has worked in customer service and knows to tip well and not do the things op’s neighbor does.

In any event, I would tip the servers extra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tipping extra is a nice gesture. He sounds autistic and hyper focused on food prep. I would also give your friend grace. Maybe alert the restaurant in advance so they can prepare however best they can. But at the end of the day, you control you and can decide who you want to be in that situation. If you want out, then you’ll have to come up with an excuse that you can accept.

Not every rude and oblivious person is autistic and not every autistic person is rude and oblivious. My young adult autistic ds has worked in customer service and knows to tip well and not do the things op’s neighbor does.

In any event, I would tip the servers extra.

+100. Has never been in the kitchen either.
"He sounds autistic...."

Enough with the slandering.

[Anonymous]

I would track the server down soon after you've ordered. Let him know that you know Boomer Guy is a nightmare customer and a terrible tipper. But that you appreciate excellent service, and slip him some cash. Like $50. You will get excellent service!

I'd also space out the dinners a bit more.

[Anonymous]

Can you suggest an alternate activity instead of going out to dinner?

[Anonymous]

Could you say you can’t get a babysitter, and invite them to your house for dinner instead?

[Anonymous]

I don't get all the "have them over for dinner at your house" posts. The guy sounds like he would a jerk critiquing the food that you cooked

[Anonymous]

You cannot buy yourself out of that abuse towards the restaurant. Then again, he would do all this when he goes out without you. What a nightmare.
Ask him to cook at your place since he is such a foodie. He has no business being near kitchen per health code.