Post divorce dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing and makes post divorce dating sound like people treat each other as disposable.

Divorced people have some experience under their belts. No starry-eyed romantics here.

[Anonymous]

I think the challenge is that when divorce involves children there are a lot of complications and the relationship is not the primary. In a first marriage the relationship comes first and you build a life together. If you divorce, your children come first and you’re still very intertwined with an ex, so your priority isn’t a new relationship.

Often post divorce people don’t want to live together, comingle finances, or spend time with extended family. It’s about fitting a person in where you are able.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the challenge is that when divorce involves children there are a lot of complications and the relationship is not the primary. In a first marriage the relationship comes first and you build a life together. If you divorce, your children come first and you’re still very intertwined with an ex, so your priority isn’t a new relationship.

Often post divorce people don’t want to live together, comingle finances, or spend time with extended family. It’s about fitting a person in where you are able.

Since a lot of divorced people are commitment phobes in the first place, this low-stakes, low-reward, half-assed setup works for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the challenge is that when divorce involves children there are a lot of complications and the relationship is not the primary. In a first marriage the relationship comes first and you build a life together. If you divorce, your children come first and you’re still very intertwined with an ex, so your priority isn’t a new relationship.

Often post divorce people don’t want to live together, comingle finances, or spend time with extended family. It’s about fitting a person in where you are able.

This is very true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing and makes post divorce dating sound like people treat each other as disposable.

Divorced people have some experience under their belts. No starry-eyed romantics here.

This.

I’m in the process and, honestly, the other side feels refreshing. I’m so tired of managing myself, my kids and a marriage. Just give me some quality, uncomplicated time with another likeminded human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is depressing and makes post divorce dating sound like people treat each other as disposable.

That about sums it up. And don’t forget the endless first dates that go nowhere before the short-term relationships.