Post divorce dating

[Anonymous]

If you don’t get married again how long do your relationships generally last ? What’s the main reason they end ? Boredom

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in one for five years and going strong. This one may last forever.

[Anonymous]

I won’t remarry (that’s not bitterness; I just don’t see how it makes sense from a practical perspective). I’ve been dating someone for >2 years and he’s a wonderful companion. This is my first relationship post divorce. If/when we break up, it will likely be due to basic compatibility issues. When you’re not living together, raising kids together, combining finances, etc, there’s not much to really disagree over! I think he’s a little emotionally immature, but it’s easy to overlook when our lives are not totally intertwined. I’m sure he overlooks my flaws, too. We’re just grateful for the limited time we have together (we both have kids), and so we can enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you don’t get married again how long do your relationships generally last ? What’s the main reason they end ? Boredom

When I was newly single after divorce, they ended after 3-4 months because I wanted to sleep with new women. Now that time has passed, my last two relationships have ended over recognizing that we're not going to be together forever, don't want to blend families, etc. In my specific last relationship, she decided at 38 that she doesn't want to close the door on having one more child, while I know that I am done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I won’t remarry (that’s not bitterness; I just don’t see how it makes sense from a practical perspective). I’ve been dating someone for >2 years and he’s a wonderful companion. This is my first relationship post divorce. If/when we break up, it will likely be due to basic compatibility issues. When you’re not living together, raising kids together, combining finances, etc, there’s not much to really disagree over! I think he’s a little emotionally immature, but it’s easy to overlook when our lives are not totally intertwined. I’m sure he overlooks my flaws, too. We’re just grateful for the limited time we have together (we both have kids), and so we can enjoy it.

I wonder if the relationship hasn’t stress tested as consequence of not being intertwined. I’m in same situation btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I won’t remarry (that’s not bitterness; I just don’t see how it makes sense from a practical perspective). I’ve been dating someone for >2 years and he’s a wonderful companion. This is my first relationship post divorce. If/when we break up, it will likely be due to basic compatibility issues. When you’re not living together, raising kids together, combining finances, etc, there’s not much to really disagree over! I think he’s a little emotionally immature, but it’s easy to overlook when our lives are not totally intertwined. I’m sure he overlooks my flaws, too. We’re just grateful for the limited time we have together (we both have kids), and so we can enjoy it.

I wonder if the relationship hasn’t stress tested as consequence of not being intertwined. I’m in same situation btw

Probably. But why invite trouble? If PP can support herself, and doesn’t want more kids, but has a committed (?), monogamous (?) partner, why change what’s working?

(NP also in this situation.)

[Anonymous]

Just find someone interesting and date them until the sex gets boring.

Then dump them and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just find someone interesting and date them until the sex gets boring.

Then dump them and move on.

What a depressing way to live.

[Anonymous]

Seven months--he was an alcoholic and couldn't be monogamous

Six months-- he moved out of state for a high-level academic job

18 months--LDR, got sick of it

Current one, 14 months but getting bored because our schedules are incompatible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I won’t remarry (that’s not bitterness; I just don’t see how it makes sense from a practical perspective). I’ve been dating someone for >2 years and he’s a wonderful companion. This is my first relationship post divorce. If/when we break up, it will likely be due to basic compatibility issues. When you’re not living together, raising kids together, combining finances, etc, there’s not much to really disagree over! I think he’s a little emotionally immature, but it’s easy to overlook when our lives are not totally intertwined. I’m sure he overlooks my flaws, too. We’re just grateful for the limited time we have together (we both have kids), and so we can enjoy it.

I wonder if the relationship hasn’t stress tested as consequence of not being intertwined. I’m in same situation btw

Probably. But why invite trouble? If PP can support herself, and doesn’t want more kids, but has a committed (?), monogamous (?) partner, why change what’s working?

(NP also in this situation.)

NP. Similar situation, lasted five years. At that point he wanted to mingle lives more and I didn’t. He wanted to spend holidays together, I still spent them with my ex bc we had small children and had a cordial relationship. He never understood that and I was tired of arguing about it.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe he stayed with you for five years when you wouldn’t spend holidays with him.

[Anonymous]

We both had children. Ex-DH and I made an effort to spend all holidays together with our kids, which was important to us. We never had to miss a Santa morning or be alone. It was more about spending them with my kids then not spending them with him.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t matter what your reason is; you were okay with him having to be alone. He should have dumped you after 6-12 months.

[Anonymous]

You sound like the bitter ex.

[Anonymous]

This thread is depressing and makes post divorce dating sound like people treat each other as disposable.