Whenever we vacation with in laws

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I always get assigned the “lesser” room. If we are renting a beach house, DHs parents and his sister and BIL will take the two nice rooms with king/queen beds and leave the twin beds room or the attic for us.

Every single time.

They usually arrive earlier and have already claimed the rooms by the time we have arrived.

DH thinks it’s NBD and I think it’s disrespectful.

Traveling w in laws isn’t vacation. I made this clear before marrying. Visiting or spending time w family is spending time w family and involves some form of inconvenience and disappointment. Vacation is vacation.

Right! So much drama here on these extended family vacations. Just don’t go - that’s not a vacation. Go on your own trips!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I always get assigned the “lesser” room. If we are renting a beach house, DHs parents and his sister and BIL will take the two nice rooms with king/queen beds and leave the twin beds room or the attic for us.

Every single time.

They usually arrive earlier and have already claimed the rooms by the time we have arrived.

DH thinks it’s NBD and I think it’s disrespectful.

It sounds like you guys are the youngest couple. That’s why.

[Anonymous]

Next time pay for the house then get there first. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

You need to get there first or have more kids than sister and BIL (who are sharing the room with you).

[Anonymous]

Is your dh the youngest? It could be the dynamic where priority goes to parents, older siblings and the youngest (and healthiest) gets what’s left. Agree, arrive earlier and claim a nice room. Leave the nicest for the in laws (otherwise, they’d be pressuring your DH to switch with mom & dad). In the big scheme of things, it’s no big deal though.

[Anonymous]

Who is paying?

And I don't really care who pays, when I travel with my parents, dh and I always will take the lesser room. They're older and walking 10 miles a day at Disney or dealing with my kids jumping on them is a lot harder for them than it is us. They're sore at night.

Frankly I care more about my kids being given a room than dh and I getting a room. If my kids are on the couch in the family room, they won't sleep and will make the trip hell for everyone. DH and I easily will sleep on the pull out and likely will enjoy watching tv from the bed.

Why are you getting there last? I'd argue that that's why you're given the shit room.

[Anonymous]

Mistake number one is vacation with the in-laws or anyone else for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you're paying equal shares.

-DH's parents getting the nicest room is a given. They're the parents, the elders. If you think they should stay in an attic room then you're beyond help.

-Get there earlier, or tell everyone before the trip ends: hey, for our next vacation can we get a nice room for a change?

If you're not paying your share, then you have absolutely no grounds for complaint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I always get assigned the “lesser” room. If we are renting a beach house, DHs parents and his sister and BIL will take the two nice rooms with king/queen beds and leave the twin beds room or the attic for us.

Every single time.

They usually arrive earlier and have already claimed the rooms by the time we have arrived.

DH thinks it’s NBD and I think it’s disrespectful.

Traveling w in laws isn’t vacation. I made this clear before marrying. Visiting or spending time w family is spending time w family and involves some form of inconvenience and disappointment. Vacation is vacation.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming you're paying equal shares.

-DH's parents getting the nicest room is a given. They're the parents, the elders. If you think they should stay in an attic room then you're beyond help.

-Get there earlier, or tell everyone before the trip ends: hey, for our next vacation can we get a nice room for a change?

If you're not paying your share, then you have absolutely no grounds for complaint.

DP here.

Should single MIL or FIL get a Queen or King bed??

Should people be penalized because they actually have to work??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mistake number one is vacation with the in-laws or anyone else for that matter.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assuming you're paying equal shares.

-DH's parents getting the nicest room is a given. They're the parents, the elders. If you think they should stay in an attic room then you're beyond help.

-Get there earlier, or tell everyone before the trip ends: hey, for our next vacation can we get a nice room for a change?

If you're not paying your share, then you have absolutely no grounds for complaint.

DP here.

Should single MIL or FIL get a Queen or King bed??

Should people be penalized because they actually have to work??

I was specifically talking about OP's situation, which she indicated as DH's parentS and nowhere did she mention work.

You can start a different thread.

[Anonymous]

Who is paying?

I would look at thebbedroom layout ofnthe house and not agree to the trip if there isn't enough rooms or the layout doesn't work for me and my family.

We used to take trips where we would be crammed in 1 room or the theory wad that all the kids can just sleep on air mattresses or couches. My kids don't sleep like that. So if I can't find accommodations that offer 2 rooms for my family alone we don't go. At this point it's 6 bedroom houses or bust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you lobby for a house with adequate rooms for all parties?

This assuming you are paying for some of it.