My daughter broke her glasses on purpose

[Anonymous]

I would unbend the frames or glue them back together and give the back to her. A 1st grader is going to have a lot of broken glasses, just by the nature of being young.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. I got glasses as a kid and was not responsible with them, and now after decades of paying for them myself I get your frustration as the parent. Agree with PPs that Zenni is a great place for affordable glasses but there are also repair shops that could help with your current bent pair. Not sure where you live but there is one on Rockville Pike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Duct tape those suckers back together and give them back to her.

That is exactly what my parents did when I was in first grade and actually did break them accidently at recess. But that was the 80s.

If it was truly an accident my suggestion would be different but in this case the child did it on purpose and family it low on money so I think the duct tape solution is called for here this behavior cannot be rewarded or it will repeat.

[Anonymous]

Wait a minute, are the frames bent or broken?

I posted my response earlier to the scenario of broken frames, as stated in the title. It just registered that OP’s post says they’re bent. If they’re not actually broken, there’s a good chance that what has been bent can be unbent. All glasses are made to be bent a little for fit, and some (generally metal frames) or bendier than others. I’ve had by frames bent all out of whack, and still been able to wear them after they were straightened. Of course, there is a limit to how much something can be bent, and to much bending and straightening can cause metal fatigue. Still, if they’re only bent, take them back to where you got them and see if they can be unbent. They’d probably do it for free, if it’s doable, but if they charge you it shouldn’t be very much.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. That's so frustrating. But she's in 1st grade. Quit ascribing adult like maturity to her. I'm sure kids have said some thing to her about wearing glasses and she's self-conscious. Also glasses are very inexpensive to buy these days unless her prescription is very unusual. So many great online eyeglass places. Take them back to the doctor and see if they'd be willing to replace them or give you a credit toward a new pair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying don't replace them, just don't jump through extra hoops to make it instantaneous. She can deal with broken or no glasses for the 3-4 weeks it takes to not expedite production and shipping.

She doesn't care, so that's not teaching the kid a lesson if that's what your post is suggesting. She's probably perfectly happy not to wear any glasses. If she really can't see without the glasses, then withholding them is cruel, regardless of what happened to them. This reminds of me when my kid throws a fit about a bath or brushing her teeth and my husband says, FINE THEN NO BATH, like that's some kind of punishment.

[Anonymous]

My kid has ADHD and ASD and has had glasses since he was a toddler. He has broken *so many* pairs on purpose.

We had a rule he couldn’t do screen time without glasses. Then the natural consequence was no screen time for the week or two it took to replace them. You might be able to just buy replacement frames and reuse the lenses (if they still have the same frame in stock).

Now that he’s in middle school, he hasn’t broken a pair on purpose in years. We still buy him the cheapest glasses we can, because he’s still rough on them, but the breaking on purpose has stopped.

[Anonymous]

Come on - she’s 6 and feels self conscious about wearing glasses. Kids may be teasing her. I get she shouldn’t have deliberately broken them but she doesn’t understand how expensive they are. She just knows that she isn’t comfortable wearing these and might feel more comfortable in a different pair. Give her a break.

[Anonymous]

Please check the prescription!

My son went for a whole year with the wrong prescription because he did not complain and we didn't notice until we took them in to get fixed. The technician noticed it wasn't the right correction compared to what was in his chart!

So if your child is telling you that "they're not comfortable", maybe something is actually wrong: maybe it's the correction of the lenses, or maybe it's the fit of the glasses, etc. Please bring the glasses where you bought them and have them double check everything. If nothing is wrong, maybe they can straighten them.

I have generally well-behaved kids, who are now teens, so I take my kids' complaints seriously, because they never complain for frivolous reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not saying don't replace them, just don't jump through extra hoops to make it instantaneous. She can deal with broken or no glasses for the 3-4 weeks it takes to not expedite production and shipping.

It’s not like they’re learning anything important, just stuff like how to read.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of these pediatric eye doctors are crooks. They put my kid in glasses and he did not really need them. They are going to hell on the express train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter bent her glasses frames. I asked how it happened, and she made up a story of being on the playground. I guess her dad didn't believe it and he got her to tell him she just bent it during circle time in class. She's in 1st grade.

I asked why she did it, she said it's because she doesn't like them. She wants new ones. We just got these glasses a couple months ago, and we are low income, so I really didn't need something else to buy. Not sure if they will be covered under warranty.

She says she wants contacts, but she obviously not responsible for that. She says doesn't like how they feel on her nose, and she says she wants pink, not purple. Should I get the same ones, or cater to her wanting different ones?

And she’s only six?
You have bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Duct tape those suckers back together and give them back to her.

This is what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on - she’s 6 and feels self conscious about wearing glasses. Kids may be teasing her. I get she shouldn’t have deliberately broken them but she doesn’t understand how expensive they are. She just knows that she isn’t comfortable wearing these and might feel more comfortable in a different pair. Give her a break.

Glasses are fine these days, kids are not making fun like when we were kids.

[Anonymous]

Do you wear glasses? I do and it’s possible they were uncomfortable. She needs to try on different pairs, hang out in them for a while, and then they need to be adjusted well. What kind of nose piece did they have? Just the frame? Or nosepads? Try different kinds