DD with me

[Anonymous]

You need to still be a parent and say no. Okay DD - you’re comfortably settled in but now it’s time to play real world. No more using my credit card. Your money, your budget. The dog can’t keep ruining my house. You and HoneyBoy are going to have to get used to sharing the space with me because I’m out of things to do in my room.

Be a mom and not a doormat of a roommate.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are still the parent. Parent. You are not doing her any favors by allowing her to treat you like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I take it no one else has experienced this issue personally.

No, you are being taken advantage of. She should paying rent, not using your credit card (I'd cut that baby up if I were you), and taking care of the dog. That's crap. When I was on my own, my mom gave me one blank check that I kept locked away in case any emergencies came up -- and I only used it once when my power bill was higher than expected and I couldn't pay it on my $20K salary living in Alexandria in the 90s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD moved back with me to save money, so far 3 months has gone by and I see no tightening of the belt on her end, but loves to order takeout on my cc. She has a lovely BF who also lives at home to pay off college debt and comes over twice a week , but to give them space I have to retreat upstairs. And she got a puppy who is sweet but pees and chews up the furniture. As you can tell this arrangement is depressing me a bit since I did enjoy my freedom/privacy once the children grew up, now she comments on everything I do, say or wear. Actually I don't like coming home from work anymore because I get hit for carryout requests and dog messes. As an aside, my son who is older lived at home with me for 3/4 years and saved enough for a down payment on a condo and graduate school, it had its moments but I never felt like I needed privacy as he was always busy. My DD already has her masters and has a thriving career, so maybe its me. And I want to retire, however she had the grandiose ideas for her wedding because she want to keep up with her friends weddings, I try to manage those expectations, but I feel like a scrooge. Does this end?

Hmmm... what race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD moved back with me to save money, so far 3 months has gone by and I see no tightening of the belt on her end, but loves to order takeout on my cc. She has a lovely BF who also lives at home to pay off college debt and comes over twice a week , but to give them space I have to retreat upstairs. And she got a puppy who is sweet but pees and chews up the furniture. As you can tell this arrangement is depressing me a bit since I did enjoy my freedom/privacy once the children grew up, now she comments on everything I do, say or wear. Actually I don't like coming home from work anymore because I get hit for carryout requests and dog messes. As an aside, my son who is older lived at home with me for 3/4 years and saved enough for a down payment on a condo and graduate school, it had its moments but I never felt like I needed privacy as he was always busy. My DD already has her masters and has a thriving career, so maybe its me. And I want to retire, however she had the grandiose ideas for her wedding because she want to keep up with her friends weddings, I try to manage those expectations, but I feel like a scrooge. Does this end?

I think it ends when you end it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth does she have your credit card and these wild expectations? That’s on you. Nip that $hit in the bud.

Right -- OP said that DC has a "masters and a thriving career," so why, without DC even the expense of rent, is takeout food going on the parent's cc?

[Anonymous]

Why are you letting her walk all over you?
That is not good parenting