Friend posting multiple daily photos of child in college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Live and let live! So what?

+1

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I don't understand why you care?

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Wait until her DD drops out suddenly - all the posts will be gone.

Happened to someone I know who scrambled to remove dozens of photos.

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I know a lot of moms of sorority members who post such photos.

Also it seems like some moms get involved in rush or post rush and are part of the ceremonies

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I think it is nice if your friend to post. I love seeing happy college kid photos because it makes me feel better for when my kid goes off. If you cannot be happy then unfollow because your friend doesn’t realize how judgy you are.

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Why is anyone on social media anyway?

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I truly don't get the posts by people who feel the need to proclaim the birthday/anniversary/whatever of their kids/husband/dogs who aren't on social media. But sending a kid off to college is a big change of life for everyone and if a few posts help, so be it.

I felt so happy when I saw my kid in one of his first classes on the college's social media account - raising his hand no less! I didn't re-post it myself but I was totally tempted to, only because I was just so happy to see him thriving in his new environment.

This is how I feel. I was so happy to hear how happy they are. I'm also devastated and sad. I've been tempted to share photos yet I'll save them for a small Facebook group I'm in. All of us met on a college forum and no one there seems to mind sharing college photos of our kids beyond move-in day. I'll be keeping the photos to a minimum on my own profile that everyone sees.

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Definitely sounds like one of those parents who see their child as an extension of themselves. Not really healthy to be posting that obsessively about your college kid’s experiences on your own social media.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend whose daughter was dropped off for college a week ago has been posting non-stop daily photos of all her child’s campus activities on social media (including sorority rush). Let your child live their life and have their experiences. Why share everything about your kid with the whole world when they are off in college? I’m just finding it really bizarre.

Yeah, I have a friend who's did something similar last week. There's a point where it crosses over from being about a parent sharing about dropping off their kid at college to a parent posting about someone else's life who just happens to be their kid. When you're posting pictures that your kid took about their experience, you've crossed over into that bizarre space. It's not your story to tell. As another poster said, it should taper off.

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My kids told me in no uncertain terms not to post pictures of them that had not been previously approved by them. I stopped posting their pictures in high school.

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"They are posting happy photos but they're not a happy family!"
"This mom is posting too much about her daughter at college!"

I got off social media because I enjoyed it too much. I imagined it must be easier for people who don't enjoy it to quit, but I was wrong. You are masochists who torture yourselves with being bothered by the mundane.

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Anonymous wrote: I guess it's how she's processing her child's departure. It is awkward, but will probably trail off naturally.

When I left for college, my parents bought a dog. Everyone processes differently.

Possibly the best post ever. Thank you !

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of moms of sorority members who post such photos.

Also it seems like some moms get involved in rush or post rush and are part of the ceremonies

I think that it is fine IF the student is comfortable with the parent sharing her photos.

Let the family celebrate their happiness. I would be honored if the family included sharing such photos with me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I guess it's how she's processing her child's departure. It is awkward, but will probably trail off naturally.

When I left for college, my parents bought a dog. Everyone processes differently.

Exactly. Everyone is different Mute or just scroll past the posts.

This. I don’t think it’s appropriate to post that much about an adult child. Especially if that child doesn’t explicitly gree. But every parent processes the empty nest and move in differently. Both my sophomore kid’s roomates have had moms that hung around for 3-4 days after move in — until classes start—. And try to spend most of each day with their kid (which Dad says never goes well). I don’t get that either. My DD wants help getting her stuff moved in, the room partly unpacked and a Target run for perishables and extra Command strips, or whatever. And then gently starts to hint that we take off. That’s fine, I us hanging around makes it harder for her to settle in and make the transition to school/ back to school.

This is one place I give parents grace. And mute for 30:days if I find it too annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I guess it's how she's processing her child's departure. It is awkward, but will probably trail off naturally.

When I left for college, my parents bought a dog. Everyone processes differently.

Exactly. Everyone is different Mute or just scroll past the posts.

This. I don’t think it’s appropriate to post that much about an adult child. Especially if that child doesn’t explicitly gree. But every parent processes the empty nest and move in differently. Both my sophomore kid’s roomates have had moms that hung around for 3-4 days after move in — until classes start— and try to spend most of each day with their kid (which DD says never goes well). I don’t get that either. My DD wants help getting her stuff moved in, the room partly unpacked and a Target run for perishables and extra Command strips, or whatever. And then gently starts to hint that we take off. That’s fine, I us hanging around makes it harder for her to settle in and make the transition to school/ back to school.

This is one place I give parents grace. And mute for 30 days if I find it too annoying.

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