ECNL parents

[Anonymous]

Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone noticed that tournaments are far worse than league games. No accountability… mini parent vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

Blaming the ref is a loser move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

Blaming the ref is a loser move.

It’s bad for kids too.

We always tell our kids stop with that BS. Focus on what you did. Stop placing blame on everything else- the weather, the ref, blah blah blah. There are bad calls so what. You can’t control that, move on.

I also frickin despise parents shouting at refs. They sound and look like a bunch of idiots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

Blaming the ref is a loser move.

It’s bad for kids too.

We always tell our kids stop with that BS. Focus on what you did. Stop placing blame on everything else- the weather, the ref, blah blah blah. There are bad calls so what. You can’t control that, move on.

I also frickin despise parents shouting at refs. They sound and look like a bunch of idiots.

Agree 1000%. I shut my kids down when they start that crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

Blaming the ref is a loser move.

It’s bad for kids too.

We always tell our kids stop with that BS. Focus on what you did. Stop placing blame on everything else- the weather, the ref, blah blah blah. There are bad calls so what. You can’t control that, move on.

I also frickin despise parents shouting at refs. They sound and look like a bunch of idiots.

Agree 1000%. I shut my kids down when they start that crap.

I remember watching a Bethesda second team. The players, their coach, and the parents were complaining about everything in the game, and the ref had to tell the parents to be quiet at one point. They lost pretty badly. And then afterwards, we heard the parents tell their kids that the other team sucked, they were the better team, and the referee was terrible. But zero feedback abt them not being able to focus and keep their head in the game.

Poor coaching too. No idea what the coach was saying to them but when your players are easily rattled by things they cannot control or can’t move past calls that aren’t favorable to them, what does that say about the coaching? I suppose that’s why they were a B team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello board,

My DD recently joined a local ECNL team. We have played a couple of scrimmages to date, one thing that has caught me off guard is the amount of complaining and yelling about the referee’s. I come from EDP, ECNL-R, CCL, I was expecting the sidelines to be more respectful ( Thinking parents should know better at this level)….question to all ECNL club members….does your parents on the sideline make you proud to be associated with the team or embarrassed…..I am currently TBD

In the lower leagues you just get used to bad refereeing, and boys MLS Next tends to pretty much always get refs who know what they are doing. ECNL games - boys and girls end up with some good refs and some bad ones. This makes the bad ones a lot more obvious to the parents.

Alternatively you have just joined a team with unpleasant parents.

[Anonymous]

U13 ecnl parents are the worst. Little Alex Morgan mommy and daddies.

[Anonymous]

Parents always a crapshoot, our ENCL-RL team is pretty quiet with one or two minor moms getting mad when their kids got fouled but another ENCL-RL team (in our club!) had the parents kicked off the field when we played them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello board,

My DD recently joined a local ECNL team. We have played a couple of scrimmages to date, one thing that has caught me off guard is the amount of complaining and yelling about the referee’s. I come from EDP, ECNL-R, CCL, I was expecting the sidelines to be more respectful ( Thinking parents should know better at this level)….question to all ECNL club members….does your parents on the sideline make you proud to be associated with the team or embarrassed…..I am currently TBD

In the lower leagues you just get used to bad refereeing, and boys MLS Next tends to pretty much always get refs who know what they are doing. ECNL games - boys and girls end up with some good refs and some bad ones. This makes the bad ones a lot more obvious to the parents.

Alternatively you have just joined a team with unpleasant parents.

Most parents have no clue what makes a good ref. Most parents understanding of soccer is limited to watch ECNL soccer and this includes the former college players.

[Anonymous]

After a full year and now the start of another one, (including multiple showcases so teams not from this area) I've actually been overall impressed with ECNL Boy parents. Sure each team tends to have one or two really "interesting" parents, but really overall most games have been pleasant. Even conversations with parents about where to eat or similar. I've found them to be more educated and knowledgeable about soccer. I was reminded of the other side of this when my younger son did Super Y this summer. Slapped back to the reality of the soccer sideline landscape again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Complaining and yelling about the referees is actually the most acceptable behavior across youth sports or professional sports, even if referee is correct.

For youth soccer referees got paid but the level does not match to the pay.

reasons/benefits of yelling to referees

1: referees are not qualified
2: you are not taking about your team/kid or other team/kid
3: you are not coaching
4: you have a good time to let it out

when you talk with your kid at the end of the game, "you had a good game, the ref sucks", your kid would be very happy.

Blaming the ref is a loser move.

It’s bad for kids too.

We always tell our kids stop with that BS. Focus on what you did. Stop placing blame on everything else- the weather, the ref, blah blah blah. There are bad calls so what. You can’t control that, move on.

I also frickin despise parents shouting at refs. They sound and look like a bunch of idiots.

Agree 1000%. I shut my kids down when they start that crap.

I remember watching a Bethesda second team. The players, their coach, and the parents were complaining about everything in the game, and the ref had to tell the parents to be quiet at one point. They lost pretty badly. And then afterwards, we heard the parents tell their kids that the other team sucked, they were the better team, and the referee was terrible. But zero feedback abt them not being able to focus and keep their head in the game.

Poor coaching too. No idea what the coach was saying to them but when your players are easily rattled by things they cannot control or can’t move past calls that aren’t favorable to them, what does that say about the coaching? I suppose that’s why they were a B team.

Not sure if you're talking about the same age group, but there is one particular age group at Bethesda where one kid has taken over the entire Blue team with his awful attitude. He complains about every call, screams at his teammates, and throws a fit about everything. Nobody has ever disciplined him within the club. Just the refs and his teammates left to deal with him every weekend. It's awful to watch, and we hate to see that team on the schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A problem across youth sports. Parents that scream/coach are a bunch A&&!!e. You know who you are. stop it. ur kid sucks.

I heard an Alexandria coach yell across the field, "PARENTS! BE QUIET!" They were doing too much sideline coaching and I think he noticed a player looking torn or not listening to him.

[Anonymous]

McLean ECNL coach got a yellow card recently, with 1 other yellow and a red card given out. Parents were going nuts on the sidelines. It was funny to watch. Parents on our team are generally silent, other than clapping for goals.