Is it normal to have a crushes on people that you aren’t married to?

[Anonymous]

I feel like it's normal. I've never cheated but recently had a crush on a coworker. She left for another job a couple months ago and the crush disappeared...I hadn't thought about her for a while until reading this thread.

[Anonymous]

Is it normal to notice that someone is prettier / smarter / richer / nicer than you? Yes.

Is it smart to talk about it? No.

[Anonymous]

I used to be like you OP. No crushes until DH started becoming more distant and I felt emotionally disconnected. I developed a serious crush on a colleague. I’m slowly fading contact with the crush who no longer works with me, but I was surprised by the fact I developed a crush and the intensity of it. I was always in the camp of I would never cheat, and that conviction was seriously put to the test!

Are you paying attention to your DH in a way that satisfies him or are you taking him for granted because he’s always been there / will always be there?

[Anonymous]

Yes it's normal, then it is normal to avoid that person at all costs.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had the same crush for almost 50 years.
My wife loves to make fun of my long attraction to this particular woman.
We both laugh about it and enjoy my somewhat strange feelings for her.
Who is it, you ask?




Marie Osmond. No idea why but I’ve liked her since her Donny & Marie days. She seems very human and has been through a lot in her life and grown stronger as a result.
I don’t plan on contacting her (lol) of which I’m sure she’s grateful!

[Anonymous]

It is normal and you should be VERY glad he admitted it to you. That means he cares about YOU and not her. That he is being vulnerable with YOU and not her. I tell you, this is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Men it's ok as they are visual , but women shouldn't

[Anonymous]

DW had a crush on Gallagher, the comedian. When he died she was upset but I was (inside) happy and relieved.

[Anonymous]

I feel like celebrity crushes are different from coworkers/neighbors/real people.

[Anonymous]

He's stupid to tell you, Op
Very stupid and hurtful
Domineering and a bit of a bully

[Anonymous]

I think it is totally normal. But I wouldn’t mention it to DH and I would probably not react well if he mentioned a crush to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like celebrity crushes are different from coworkers/neighbors/real people.

I share celebrity crushes but not real people. Celeb crushes feel a lot more harmless.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal but your DH is stupid to tell you about it. I am a wife, and use this to keep myself attracted to DH 20 years in. Doesn’t everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had the same crush for almost 50 years.
My wife loves to make fun of my long attraction to this particular woman.
We both laugh about it and enjoy my somewhat strange feelings for her.
Who is it, you ask?




Marie Osmond. No idea why but I’ve liked her since her Donny & Marie days. She seems very human and has been through a lot in her life and grown stronger as a result.
I don’t plan on contacting her (lol) of which I’m sure she’s grateful!

My dad had a longstanding crush on an actress and my mom thought it was hot! It's normal. Just don't act on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's stupid to tell you, Op
Very stupid and hurtful
Domineering and a bit of a bully

Eh, I dunno. I don't think it was a great idea for him to do it but he might have genuinely thought she was one of the many, many people who think it's not a big deal. And I wonder about OP's language here. He "admitted" it...was she trying to get the information out of him?