Is he boring or just a language/cultural barrier

[Anonymous]

As someone who speaks multiple languages and is married to a man who's native language is not English, I can easily say that it's a bit of both. My personality changes when I speak in a language that I"m not entirely fluent in. I'm not as witty or chatty in covernsation - obviously. My DH likewise lights up when speaking his native language. Sometimes it's a PITA to speak your 2nd language. Maybe he just prefers Spanish speakers.

Or maybe you just met someone in a bar and it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who speaks multiple languages and is married to a man who's native language is not English, I can easily say that it's a bit of both. My personality changes when I speak in a language that I"m not entirely fluent in. I'm not as witty or chatty in covernsation - obviously. My DH likewise lights up when speaking his native language. Sometimes it's a PITA to speak your 2nd language. Maybe he just prefers Spanish speakers.

Or maybe you just met someone in a bar and it is what it is.

Op here - I think this is my initial feeling. When he alluded to thinking I was Dominican - and then learning I wasn’t - I sensed something. Not quite disappointment but something.

We have a second date Sunday and I will be more laid back to allow him to take the lead and determine our chemistry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean you literally said nothing that would indicate you’re interested in him.

Physically he has the best smile ( one dimple ) and was cleanly dressed/smelled nice.

At the bar he was with a friend and was quiet but was focusing on the game. At certain intervals he would talk to his friend and turn to talk to me. It was minimal.

I like how he dressed- he dressed well on the first date so I took it as a sign he takes care of himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound too intelligent for him.

Yes but unfortunately too desperate to not see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean you literally said nothing that would indicate you’re interested in him.

Physically he has the best smile ( one dimple ) and was cleanly dressed/smelled nice.

At the bar he was with a friend and was quiet but was focusing on the game. At certain intervals he would talk to his friend and turn to talk to me. It was minimal.

I like how he dressed- he dressed well on the first date so I took it as a sign he takes care of himself.

Girl. You are really reaching here. He dressed nice? That’s not a reason to date someone.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, its just a date and free food, what she got to lose? He'll lose about $150-200.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound too intelligent for him.

Yes but unfortunately too desperate to not see it.

You’re an idiot. With a language barrier even the most intelligent people can sound less so.

[Anonymous]

I'm surrounded by immigrant men from corporate world. Men who have intelligence and humor and who manage to have good job in America, know enough english to be interesting and funny in conversation.