Custody — vacation time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much does he see them now?

We are 50/50 on custody. I’m talking about vacation time only, and how it’s arranged.

I get that, but I think the fact that they have spent the night with him before is relevant.

I am the PP with the ex across the country so I do think that how well the kid knows Dad is relavent.

We’ll be living close by in the same town. This is only for his trips “home” to his country in the summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much does he see them now?

We are 50/50 on custody. I’m talking about vacation time only, and how it’s arranged.

I am also 50/50. Our order States 2 weeks per parent per summer. The ex took his 2 weeks together this year and I took two separate weeks.

[Anonymous]

I'd be THRILLED if my ex took the kids for two weeks. Alas, the longest he's ever had them is four days.

[Anonymous]

A one time two week custody period seems perfectly reasonable for him to take the kids to visit his extended family/home country, probably at a significant distance and expense. You sound extremely clingy and petty.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the people on the other thread that in your specific situation I wouldn’t let my child out of the country with him.

But I think 2 weeks is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the people on the other thread that in your specific situation I wouldn’t let my child out of the country with him.

But I think 2 weeks is fine.

If there is no abuse, neglect and he will return the child, you are being extremely controlling not to let him travel with the child and that's wrong. He is an equal parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two weeks is reasonable for older kids. You’ll want the extra time if you decide to take teenagers abroad.

Non-consecutive until age 10 or 12 is also reasonable.

One thing to consider is if you are alternating weeks in the summer, you don’t want your kids with the other parent for three weeks straight (vacation 1, vacation 2, regular schedule), so put language in there that the non-vacationing parent gets week 3, and the pattern resets from there.

Waiting to allow Dad to have visits till 10-12 screams you are trying to cut the other parent out as kids need time to have an equal bond with their other parent and by only having them see their other parent a few times a month is not bonding and by the time the kids hit 10-12 you will scream they have friends, activities, etc. and they don't have time to see dad for more than an hour or two a few times a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two weeks is reasonable for older kids. You’ll want the extra time if you decide to take teenagers abroad.

Non-consecutive until age 10 or 12 is also reasonable.

One thing to consider is if you are alternating weeks in the summer, you don’t want your kids with the other parent for three weeks straight (vacation 1, vacation 2, regular schedule), so put language in there that the non-vacationing parent gets week 3, and the pattern resets from there.

Waiting to allow Dad to have visits till 10-12 screams you are trying to cut the other parent out as kids need time to have an equal bond with their other parent and by only having them see their other parent a few times a month is not bonding and by the time the kids hit 10-12 you will scream they have friends, activities, etc. and they don't have time to see dad for more than an hour or two a few times a month.

Reading comprehension isn’t your strength, is it?

[Anonymous]

Two consecutive weeks is appropriate for a biological parent. You will not look good going to court trying to prevent this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s standard in terms of consecutive time away from the other parent for younger kids, 6 and 9? My soon to be ex will likely want two consecutive weeks in summer but I think this is too long for my youngest to be away from me.

Then, don’t get divorced. The man is your children’s father. He’s entitled to two weeks of them just as much as you are.

This x1000

[Anonymous]

The man is the kid's Dad. He is entitled to be with his kids as much as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man is the kid's Dad. He is entitled to be with his kids as much as you are.

This x 1000. What if he said 2 weeks is too long for the kids to be away from him, when you have them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The man is the kid's Dad. He is entitled to be with his kids as much as you are.

This x 1000. What if he said 2 weeks is too long for the kids to be away from him, when you have them?

No one would have them for 2 weeks in a row. The rule would apply to both. We’re talking just about vacation time in summer, not regular custody (which is 50-50).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The man is the kid's Dad. He is entitled to be with his kids as much as you are.

This x 1000. What if he said 2 weeks is too long for the kids to be away from him, when you have them?

No one would have them for 2 weeks in a row. The rule would apply to both. We’re talking just about vacation time in summer, not regular custody (which is 50-50).

Why wouldn’t you want some flexibility? The kids will be fine for two weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The man is the kid's Dad. He is entitled to be with his kids as much as you are.

This x 1000. What if he said 2 weeks is too long for the kids to be away from him, when you have them?

No one would have them for 2 weeks in a row. The rule would apply to both. We’re talking just about vacation time in summer, not regular custody (which is 50-50).

No, the kids will be fine. Especially if he wants to travel to his home country. This is likely more about you. Of course you'll miss them, but they will be ok.