Custody — vacation time

[Anonymous]

What’s standard in terms of consecutive time away from the other parent for younger kids, 6 and 9? My soon to be ex will likely want two consecutive weeks in summer but I think this is too long for my youngest to be away from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s standard in terms of consecutive time away from the other parent for younger kids, 6 and 9? My soon to be ex will likely want two consecutive weeks in summer but I think this is too long for my youngest to be away from me.

Then, don’t get divorced. The man is your children’s father. He’s entitled to two weeks of them just as much as you are.

[Anonymous]

I don't think 2 weeks is unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

How much does he see them now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s standard in terms of consecutive time away from the other parent for younger kids, 6 and 9? My soon to be ex will likely want two consecutive weeks in summer but I think this is too long for my youngest to be away from me.

But it isn't too long to be away from Dad?

Two weeks is pretty standard. It isn't time away from one parent, it's time with the other parent.

[Anonymous]

That's pretty normal. I know it feels like a lot, but that's very normal.

[Anonymous]

What is the current cusotdy schedule?

How amicable is your co-parenting?

What are their plans for the 2 weeks?

Every time kids move between parents it is an adjustment. So sometimes seeing the other parent part way through a longer stretch can actually be harder on the child than just being away for the two weeks.

[Anonymous]

Ok I thought the standard was 2 weeks in total only one consecutive week until the youngest is 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok I thought the standard was 2 weeks in total only one consecutive week until the youngest is 10.

When my youngest was four I was told that each parent would get four consecutive weeks.

[Anonymous]

Two weeks will be fine. You aren't sending them with a stranger, if they miss you they can call. They will also be together, and having fun doing things they usually don't get to do.

My son started doing two weeks with his dad at 3 years old, FWIW. It was a long time away from me, but its important for children to have those uninterrupted times with EACH parent to keep those bonds really strong.

[Anonymous]

My kids’ other parent lives on the other side of the country and sees them twice a year. 2 weeks at 6 would have been hard. But if the other parent is local, and they spend the night there, or if this is a recent divorce and the kid has been living with both parents till recently this seems reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Two weeks is reasonable for older kids. You’ll want the extra time if you decide to take teenagers abroad.

Non-consecutive until age 10 or 12 is also reasonable.

One thing to consider is if you are alternating weeks in the summer, you don’t want your kids with the other parent for three weeks straight (vacation 1, vacation 2, regular schedule), so put language in there that the non-vacationing parent gets week 3, and the pattern resets from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the current cusotdy schedule?

How amicable is your co-parenting?

What are their plans for the 2 weeks?

Every time kids move between parents it is an adjustment. So sometimes seeing the other parent part way through a longer stretch can actually be harder on the child than just being away for the two weeks.

This doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much does he see them now?

We are 50/50 on custody. I’m talking about vacation time only, and how it’s arranged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much does he see them now?

We are 50/50 on custody. I’m talking about vacation time only, and how it’s arranged.

I get that, but I think the fact that they have spent the night with him before is relevant.

I am the PP with the ex across the country so I do think that how well the kid knows Dad is relavent.