Inviting only 1 boy to a girl's birthday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 10 year old boy who has been the only boy at the party. It's fine. I wouldn't even reach out to the mom, but I would make the guest list public so she can see who else is coming. If she's like me, she'll skim to see whether there are other boys, but be fine that there are not.

This. We have an 8 yo daughter that is often the only girl to be invited. NBD

FWIW I always make my guest lists public. It can make a difference for the shyer kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What can I say- "DD loves playing with Larlo and we wanted to invite your son. We'd love to have him here, but I wanted to let you know that he'll be the only boy. We understand if he's not interested in coming."

I am obviously not a wordsmith.

This is fine. One of my boys plays with girls a lot, and this is perfect.

[Anonymous]

My dd friend had her 6 year old birthday with 8 girls and one boy from her class who she was friends with. It didn’t phase anyone or the boy. He had a great time. The birthday activities weren’t overly feminine but regular party fun that anyone would enjoy. I do t think it would be much different at 8.

[Anonymous]

My son was the only boy at many parties. It’s fine. It never fazed him.

[Anonymous]

My DS was the only boy at an American Girl party when he was 10! He fully embraced it. I wouldn’t even mention it.

[Anonymous]

Why is this even a question. Of course she should invite him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What can I say- "DD loves playing with Larlo and we wanted to invite your son. We'd love to have him here, but I wanted to let you know that he'll be the only boy. We understand if he's not interested in coming."

I am obviously not a wordsmith.

Mom of a boy who has a lot of female friends. If you said this to me, I would assume that your daughter wants to invite my son but you (the mom) don't want him there and would probably decline the invitation unless it was one of his besties.

[Anonymous]

Agree with making the guest list public, and not specifically reaching out to the mom.

If you do reach out to the mom or this comes up in conversation, DO NOT include the line "We understand if he's not interested in coming."

That's a really odd thing to say for a birthday party invite and will make it sound like a non-invite / or you're hoping he won't show.