Inviting only 1 boy to a girl's birthday party

[Anonymous]

DD's 8th birthday is in September and she wants to invite a boy from her class. She's adamant that she doesn't want any other boys.

He's a sweet boy, gentler, likes playing the girls the most, and I am friends with his mom. Should DD invite him and then I message the mom and let her know he's the only boy? I don't want him to feel awkward and if he doesn't want to be the only boy, it's okay for him to skip it. Any tips on what I could say?

[Anonymous]

Invite and let the mom know and say it's ok if he doesnt want to come

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say anything to the mom. If you don't make a big deal of it, it won't be one.

[Anonymous]

He's DD's friend. Just invite him.

[Anonymous]

I would say something to the mom. My Do you want invited one boy to her 8th birthday and he did seem a bit left out.

[Anonymous]

If he's used to playing with mostly girls it probably wouldn't be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

OP here. What can I say- "DD loves playing with Larlo and we wanted to invite your son. We'd love to have him here, but I wanted to let you know that he'll be the only boy. We understand if he's not interested in coming."

I am obviously not a wordsmith.

[Anonymous]

OP here- I'm trying to think of what I'd do if it were DD. She's been to a lot of boy parties where there's only 2-3 girls and she doesn't care. Kids this age mostly play the same way. It's not like a tween girl birthday where they do facials and manicures.

[Anonymous]

I have done this- our next door neighbor is a boy exactly the same age as my daughter. She always invites him and all other friends are girls. I think I let his mom know that it was going to be all other girls but it came up casually in conversation and wasn’t a big deal. You could just make the guest list public- the kids family can read between the lines. At this age they probably won’t care but in a couple years it might be different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What can I say- "DD loves playing with Larlo and we wanted to invite your son. We'd love to have him here, but I wanted to let you know that he'll be the only boy. We understand if he's not interested in coming."

I am obviously not a wordsmith.

This is perfectly fine! I think the mom will appreciate the info and can decide what to do with it. There's nothing strange about this conversation.

[Anonymous]

Would you really not send your son to a party bc he’d be the only boy? What are you afraid of?

[Anonymous]

There is one boy in my daughter’s class that is often the only boy invited. It has been this way for years and no one cares. I never reached out to his parent to mention he would be the only boy.

[Anonymous]

My DS is invited to many girl b-day parties. Sometimes he’s the only boy. Sometimes there are 2. We’ve never been told. We’ve never cared. Either he likes the b-day kid or not. He’s typically close friends with the dear b-day kid and her other friends anyway. So, he knows some of the crowd. No one really cares what gender. They are just friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What can I say- "DD loves playing with Larlo and we wanted to invite your son. We'd love to have him here, but I wanted to let you know that he'll be the only boy. We understand if he's not interested in coming."

I am obviously not a wordsmith.

This is perfectly fine! I think the mom will appreciate the info and can decide what to do with it. There's nothing strange about this conversation.

Agree. I’m the mom to an 8 year old who has mostly girl buddies. The last birthday party we went to, he was the only boy there. The wording above is totally fine.

[Anonymous]

I have a 10 year old boy who has been the only boy at the party. It's fine. I wouldn't even reach out to the mom, but I would make the guest list public so she can see who else is coming. If she's like me, she'll skim to see whether there are other boys, but be fine that there are not.