Little Hunting swim team: mean boys?

[Anonymous]

Can’t you just have your kids join the swim team next year? You will meet lots of parents and your kids will find friends. (Hopefully different ones from the ones you mentioned.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you are part of the problem if you make an anonymous post about children like this

Oh, hi, parent of obnoxious swim team kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has nothing to do with swim team.

This is just poor manners by these children and possibly sub-standard parenting but who knows. Try posting to the general parenting or elementary age forums here for better suggestions on how you and your child might best approach this situation.

I disagree. My experience has been that swim team families are very cliquish. If you are not part of the team you can feel a bit ostracized. Certainly not speaking for all pools, but this was our experience.

+1 I agree, some swim team families are very cliquish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.

The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

Besides those two points, it sounds like this pool has some cliques. OP, I would recommend getting involved as an adult with pool activities. Volunteers are always needed at our pool club and it is a good way to meet people. Next summer get your kids involved in swim or tennis team so they can get to know more kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you are part of the problem if you make an anonymous post about children like this

Oh, hi, parent of obnoxious swim team kid.

No, I don't belong to that pool and my kids are not obnoxious. But I would teach them to be a better role model online that to post about kids at a pool when they are adults, especially when they name a specific pool and team. Where I come from, the swim team kids are hardly the too cool / exclusive ones. More like dorky smart but nice ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.

The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

Besides those two points, it sounds like this pool has some cliques. OP, I would recommend getting involved as an adult with pool activities. Volunteers are always needed at our pool club and it is a good way to meet people. Next summer get your kids involved in swim or tennis team so they can get to know more kids.

You expect the lifeguards to patrol who isn’t including others?

Some kids just aren’t nice to other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.

The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

Besides those two points, it sounds like this pool has some cliques. OP, I would recommend getting involved as an adult with pool activities. Volunteers are always needed at our pool club and it is a good way to meet people. Next summer get your kids involved in swim or tennis team so they can get to know more kids.

You expect the lifeguards to patrol who isn’t including others?

Some kids just aren’t nice to other kids.

Different pool, but most of our life guards are swim coaches and most will get on kids who are being little s*&ts

[Anonymous]

If you are a parent who expects the lifeguards at the pool to parent your children while you sit there doing nothing, may the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a parent who expects the lifeguards at the pool to parent your children while you sit there doing nothing, may the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits.

Who sits there? Kids get dropped for practice and just stay the day

[Anonymous]

I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.



The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

I haven't found this to be the case in terms of people being snobby. The social scene there is not for me, because it is a lot of people who either have a stay at home parent or very flexible job, and thus can spend a bunch of time at the pool and are caught up in the goings on at the pool. But I would not say anyone has been mean, cold, or rude to me. Just different interests and personality type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are a parent who expects the lifeguards at the pool to parent your children while you sit there doing nothing, may the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits.

Who sits there? Kids get dropped for practice and just stay the day

Kids 10 and under cannot be at our pool without an adult present. And a lot of parents are physically present but have completely checked out. But you're right - the over 10 crowd are often there unsupervised.

[Anonymous]

I belong to a different pool but this one team is definitely cliquey. In fact my step kids who are teens don’t like going to the pool and I suspect it’s because of the social aspect. They aren’t part of the in crowd. Also some of the swim team parents are gossipy and mean about other swim team parents - they complain they don’t volunteer enough etc.

The worst is when swim team kids grow up to be lifeguards at the same pool and carry that cliqueness into their life guarding and treat different kids differently when guarding.

I’m just there to swim laps so I don’t really care. I do wish my step kids felt more comfortable there. I mean that’s partially on them. I think they should just go anyway and take a friend or two and have fun. But they aren’t very confident socially so they just stay away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.

The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

Besides those two points, it sounds like this pool has some cliques. OP, I would recommend getting involved as an adult with pool activities. Volunteers are always needed at our pool club and it is a good way to meet people. Next summer get your kids involved in swim or tennis team so they can get to know more kids.

You expect the lifeguards to patrol who isn’t including others?

Some kids just aren’t nice to other kids.

Not patrol the kids for inclusion! But if there are unsafe antics in the pool from the pack behavior, the lifeguards should stop it for safety reasons. Of course parents should be monitoring their children’s behavior!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been to the pool and have friends who belong there. It does seem really cliqueish. There is a big pack of kids who go to an Old Town private school and their parents are pretty snobby about it, it has been reported.

The lifeguards don’t say anything about this pack behavior? How old are these kids? The moms are snobby about where their kids go to school in Old Town? Or they are just snobby in general to perceived “outsiders”?

Besides those two points, it sounds like this pool has some cliques. OP, I would recommend getting involved as an adult with pool activities. Volunteers are always needed at our pool club and it is a good way to meet people. Next summer get your kids involved in swim or tennis team so they can get to know more kids.

You expect the lifeguards to patrol who isn’t including others?

Some kids just aren’t nice to other kids.

Not patrol the kids for inclusion! But if there are unsafe antics in the pool from the pack behavior, the lifeguards should stop it for safety reasons. Of course parents should be monitoring their children’s behavior!

Pp here. Yes, if safety is compromised (threats or roughhousing) the guards should step in. The OP mentioned other kids not letting her kids play with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you are part of the problem if you make an anonymous post about children like this

Oh, hi, parent of obnoxious swim team kid.

No, I don't belong to that pool and my kids are not obnoxious. But I would teach them to be a better role model online that to post about kids at a pool when they are adults, especially when they name a specific pool and team. Where I come from, the swim team kids are hardly the too cool / exclusive ones. More like dorky smart but nice ones.

DP. And same. This post is in such poor form. Talking about an easily identified group of kids online is extremely crappy.