Hospital Drama

[Anonymous]

I don't think the family has any input. She's married. I love my family, but I would want my DH making decisions for me and I wouldn't want hospital visitors either. I wouldn't want my family to know about any diagnosis or really anything else. I'm a private person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the family has any input. She's married. I love my family, but I would want my DH making decisions for me and I wouldn't want hospital visitors either. I wouldn't want my family to know about any diagnosis or really anything else. I'm a private person.

You realize not everyone is like you, not every marriage is like yours and not every family dynamic is like yours, right?

[Anonymous]

Wouldn’t it make sense for the family to consult a lawyer rather than a message board?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the family has any input. She's married. I love my family, but I would want my DH making decisions for me and I wouldn't want hospital visitors either. I wouldn't want my family to know about any diagnosis or really anything else. I'm a private person.

You realize not everyone is like you, not every marriage is like yours and not every family dynamic is like yours, right?

No I think most people would want their spouse to deal with their medical issues and not their parents.

[Anonymous]

I don't know anything about the hospital your relative is in, but the hospital I work at only allows two visitors per day and two people that can receive phone updates from staff. If another family member wants an update, they either need to go through the person identified by the patient or the patient herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the family has any input. She's married. I love my family, but I would want my DH making decisions for me and I wouldn't want hospital visitors either. I wouldn't want my family to know about any diagnosis or really anything else. I'm a private person.

You realize not everyone is like you, not every marriage is like yours and not every family dynamic is like yours, right?

No I think most people would want their spouse to deal with their medical issues and not their parents.

She already granted POA to her family rather than husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it make sense for the family to consult a lawyer rather than a message board?

Initially this was not their preference, in order to maintain decent relations. But yeah sent them some lawyers to consult after the latest.

Thanks for the helpful suggestions.

[Anonymous]

The POA is irrelevant as long as she is alert and capacitated. The PP who pointed out she will need to assert herself if she dislikes how DH is handling things is correct. Now, family can offer her support and voice their concerns, but they cannot force the issue. Family can share their concerns with the hospital SW, but again, the patient is the decision maker for better or for worse.