I think my husband is reckless with our child.

[Anonymous]

I’m so glad your son was safe. But also sorry you are dealing with this.

[Anonymous]

Don't involve the authorities in this. Go get your baby. If your husband gets pulled over, drunk, and the child is in the car, they will involve CPS and if you've got any issues at all, they might take your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't involve the authorities in this. Go get your baby. If your husband gets pulled over, drunk, and the child is in the car, they will involve CPS and if you've got any issues at all, they might take your kid.

OP here, I picked my kid up and he's home and safe now.

[Anonymous]

So between your posts 19:49 and 20:04 you went and got your kid? Sounds like this is so close he can just walk home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So between your posts 19:49 and 20:04 you went and got your kid? Sounds like this is so close he can just walk home.

Correct, yes. It's a 10 minute drive away.

[Anonymous]

OP I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find support to lean on.

[Anonymous]

al-anon is a resource for spouses and children of alcoholics. Please look into them.

Above all, no matter what, you need to keep your child safe. Young children need constant supervision. Anyone who has had too much to drink cannot keep the child safe.

[Anonymous]

Double up on your birth control. No need to add more kids to this shitshow.

[Anonymous]

Did DH come home?

Next time you gotta get a friend to help bring his car home so he can't drive (crash?) it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alright. Buckle up because this is a bad one.

I truly dislike my husband today, and some other days. But today takes the cake and I am about 5 minutes away from storming a family barbecue and potentially causing a scene.

My husband has had a drinking problem. It has been a problem for a while and caused serious contention in our marriage. I do not trust his family because they all also have drinking problems.

My husband left today for a barbecue at 12:30. I thought it was a lunch barbecue. It is 4:30 now (we are on the west coast). My husband telling me (with slurred speech) they are just now beginning to eat. I asked him how many beers he has had. He says 3. I don't believe him at all, nor would I drive after having 3 drinks.

I have half a mind to drive over there right now, pick my kid up and call the police on him and ask for a breathalyzer while he's in the car. I am so done with his sh*t. I yelled at him. Not politely at all, I told him I was done with his sh*t and I am coming to pick my kid up, I told him not to come home. He "says" 3 drinks in 4 hours, I know it's not that. I feel like I am losing it. I am pacing in my house, nervous about my kids safety and the fact that my husband would consider jeopardizing his safety.

Also, he's had three DUI's. Lovingly, this was not disclosed to me until after we married and had to join our car insurances.

Heck, no, I'm not getting in that car.

[Anonymous]

Why would you let your alcoholic husband take your kid anywhere alone? Leave him. Chances are, he won’t get any better. My dad was an alcoholic and I’m so glad my mom took us and left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let your alcoholic husband take your kid anywhere alone? Leave him. Chances are, he won’t get any better. My dad was an alcoholic and I’m so glad my mom took us and left.

easy for you to say. If she leaves him, he will get part custody then she’ll have even less control and knowledge over what he does with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let your alcoholic husband take your kid anywhere alone? Leave him. Chances are, he won’t get any better. My dad was an alcoholic and I’m so glad my mom took us and left.

easy for you to say. If she leaves him, he will get part custody then she’ll have even less control and knowledge over what he does with the kids.

Maybe. Or she'll get full custody and a restraining order because he is a lifelong DUI driver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let your alcoholic husband take your kid anywhere alone? Leave him. Chances are, he won’t get any better. My dad was an alcoholic and I’m so glad my mom took us and left.

easy for you to say. If she leaves him, he will get part custody then she’ll have even less control and knowledge over what he does with the kids.

Maybe. Or she'll get full custody and a restraining order because he is a lifelong DUI driver.

His lawyer will point out the last DUI was more than 10 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you let your alcoholic husband take your kid anywhere alone? Leave him. Chances are, he won’t get any better. My dad was an alcoholic and I’m so glad my mom took us and left.

easy for you to say. If she leaves him, he will get part custody then she’ll have even less control and knowledge over what he does with the kids.

Maybe. Or she'll get full custody and a restraining order because he is a lifelong DUI driver.

His lawyer will point out the last DUI was more than 10 years ago.

Unless she gets him pinged for another one. Some alcoholics need to hit rock bottom in order to change. I personally don’t see anything wrong with helping them get there before they hurt anyone other than themselves.