I think my husband is reckless with our child.
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Anonymous
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Alright. Buckle up because this is a bad one.
I truly dislike my husband today, and some other days. But today takes the cake and I am about 5 minutes away from storming a family barbecue and potentially causing a scene. My husband has had a drinking problem. It has been a problem for a while and caused serious contention in our marriage. I do not trust his family because they all also have drinking problems. My husband left today for a barbecue at 12:30. I thought it was a lunch barbecue. It is 4:30 now (we are on the west coast). My husband telling me (with slurred speech) they are just now beginning to eat. I asked him how many beers he has had. He says 3. I don't believe him at all, nor would I drive after having 3 drinks. I have half a mind to drive over there right now, pick my kid up and call the police on him and ask for a breathalyzer while he's in the car. I am so done with his sh*t. I yelled at him. Not politely at all, I told him I was done with his sh*t and I am coming to pick my kid up, I told him not to come home. He "says" 3 drinks in 4 hours, I know it's not that. I feel like I am losing it. I am pacing in my house, nervous about my kids safety and the fact that my husband would consider jeopardizing his safety. Also, he's had three DUI's. Lovingly, this was not disclosed to me until after we married and had to join our car insurances. |
Anonymous
| How old is the kid? Did you have the kid before marriage? Just trying to gauge how recent the DUIs are. 100% go pick up the kid. |
Anonymous
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4 years old. No, we have been married for 6 years now.
DUI's are 10+ years old, predating our initial relationship. |
Anonymous
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Of course you go get your kid. I can’t imagine debating between potentially making a scene and letting my child drive with an alcoholic who has drunk enough to slur speech.
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Anonymous
| Go get your kid. How is this not your immediate response? You have an obligation to protect your child from this situation. Go now. |
Anonymous
| Thank you. On the way now. I told him to not get behind the wheel and to stay at his brothers house tonight. |
Anonymous
| You can go get your kid without making a scene. |
Anonymous
| How does he have 3 DUIs and still have his license? Isn't there supposed to be an interlock device in his vehicle for X years follwing a 3rd DUI in CA? Obviously, get your kid. Looks like you should be making more permanent (safety) plans pertaining to your child. |
Anonymous
*3 DUI arrests. 2 dropped, he did a diversion program. |
Anonymous
| My husband cant drive our kids anywhere or be left alone with them for extended periods of time. Start building your case for custody and do whatever it takes to ensure your kid's safety |
Anonymous
OP here, is he an alcoholic too? |
Anonymous
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Go get your kid. You don’t have to make a scene, though I am sure it will risk one.
But please go get your kid. |
Anonymous
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When I saw the post heading, I thought it was going to be about a dad like my DH who doesn’t cut our toddlers blueberries and grapes. Was prepared to say that most moms probably think dads take too many risks with kids.
This is a whole different level Op. I’m sorry. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I have my son. He’s ok. No scene caused but I’m furious.
Luckily my STXHB stayed there. He insists he was fine and it’s no big deal to drive with a kid in the car after 3 drinks. |
Anonymous
No but he has depression, anxiety and anger management issues that resulted in altercations with other people that involved police. |