Attending child's birthday party

[Anonymous]

definitely don't go. that's a long drive and you won't have any real visiting time. i would never ever expect someone to come that far for a little kid's princess party.

[Anonymous]

I never even invited out of town relatives for kids birthdays. Would never in a million years expect adults and teens to spend 4 hours in the car (each way!) for some cake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care at all, but some absolutely would care that family missed their precious Larla's birthday party. *clutches pearls*

You know them best, would they be upset?

Who cares?! Why would that matter in the least? Invitations are not summons. We do what is best for our family. Period.

[Anonymous]

Send a gift and decline. If they are annoyed that tells you all you need to know about them. See them at a time convenient for everyone. it's not a big deal at all. For goodness sake it's not a wedding. if they are annoyed they are nuts. People have jobs and busy lives. Even if you lived 10 minutes away there is no reason to expect older kids to show up for little kid birthday parties every year. It's a courtesy they invited you and if you can make it and can enjoy it great, but you can't so let it go.

[Anonymous]

Look, OP, let’s cut to the chase. Your SILs side of the family is the one with all the little kids. She likes that side of the family more than her husband’s side anyway. And her husband surely doesn’t give a shit if you come. He probably thinks you’d be crazy to, in fact.

It was a courtesy invite from your SIL. Decline it gracefully and without explanation. No one will care.