This is how he "helps"...

[Anonymous]

You sound like my ex-wife. I always did the dishes. And I always unloaded the dishwasher. None of that would prevent her nagging about the dishwasher being loaded wrong, the spoons being in the wrong section of the silverware basket. Micromanaging over nothing. I wish she had micromanaged herself a career and a decent income with her two PhDs.

[Anonymous]

But, he did his laundry.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying but to be happy and build a strong relationship you need to rise above frivolous issues and puck your battles.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it OP. He did laundry but it took a little longer. You didn’t have to do extra work, except writing your post (probably not on your chore list). Now he also swept the laundry room. What have you been doing today besides narrating his chores for us?

My husband does this to me sometimes. He’ll watch me work and tell me better ways to do it. I’ve tried thanking him for the suggestion and asking him to stop because I have it under control. Now I hand the tools Phil and let him finish the task because he’s so much better at it than I am. I also avoid doing certain household tasks around him when I can because he makes me anxious even when he’s not critical. Is that what you’re going for with your husband? He made a mistake and fixed it. What’s the real issue? You’re angry about something, but what you wrote about doesn’t seem to match the level of frustration you’re writing with.

[Anonymous]

Yikes- did his family never teach/model basic laundry/cleaning while he was growing up? As long as he isn't so incompetent that he shirks the work so you can 'fix it', no harm no foul I guess. But I'd have to hide every time he did this so he wouldn't see me laughing at him. What a dum dum. As the kids get older just make sure you are covering the basics- bonus points if he listens in and learns something new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes- did his family never teach/model basic laundry/cleaning while he was growing up? As long as he isn't so incompetent that he shirks the work so you can 'fix it', no harm no foul I guess. But I'd have to hide every time he did this so he wouldn't see me laughing at him. What a dum dum. As the kids get older just make sure you are covering the basics- bonus points if he listens in and learns something new.

Whatever. He forgot to check the pockets. I think most people forget to empty pockets sometimes or forget to check if everyone else did. It’s really not a big deal. I think it’s weird that OP is watching and judging while he does laundry and cleans up the mess, and especially posting about it as though her DH did something awful.

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel you. I’m married to a dolt, too. After a while, if you’re not careful, contempt settles in. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But, he did his laundry.

Way to set the bar low. Who else is supposed to do his laundry?

[Anonymous]

This is like when my kids do chores. It’s such a sh*t show, but I try to bite my tongues and look away so that when they grow up, they’re not like your husband. I get you OP. My dad is like that and it’s incredibly frustrating when he “helps”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes- did his family never teach/model basic laundry/cleaning while he was growing up? As long as he isn't so incompetent that he shirks the work so you can 'fix it', no harm no foul I guess. But I'd have to hide every time he did this so he wouldn't see me laughing at him. What a dum dum. As the kids get older just make sure you are covering the basics- bonus points if he listens in and learns something new.

Whatever. He forgot to check the pockets. I think most people forget to empty pockets sometimes or forget to check if everyone else did. It’s really not a big deal. I think it’s weird that OP is watching and judging while he does laundry and cleans up the mess, and especially posting about it as though her DH did something awful.

PP to whom you responded. The accidental paper is not the issue for me. Crap happens. But the shaking it out/not sweeping up in a contained fashion but instead sweeping it onto the carpet to then have to vacuum... he missed basic childhood home training so his cleanup is tedious. I think the gong show was taking so long she couldn't not notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes- did his family never teach/model basic laundry/cleaning while he was growing up? As long as he isn't so incompetent that he shirks the work so you can 'fix it', no harm no foul I guess. But I'd have to hide every time he did this so he wouldn't see me laughing at him. What a dum dum. As the kids get older just make sure you are covering the basics- bonus points if he listens in and learns something new.

Whatever. He forgot to check the pockets. I think most people forget to empty pockets sometimes or forget to check if everyone else did. It’s really not a big deal. I think it’s weird that OP is watching and judging while he does laundry and cleans up the mess, and especially posting about it as though her DH did something awful.

PP to whom you responded. The accidental paper is not the issue for me. Crap happens. But the shaking it out/not sweeping up in a contained fashion but instead sweeping it onto the carpet to then have to vacuum... he missed basic childhood home training so his cleanup is tedious. I think the gong show was taking so long she couldn't not notice.

You guys criticizing him are the idiots. Sweeping it on the carpet made it so it *could* be vacuumed up. Depending on type of vacuum, the little bits on a hard floor would go everywhere when the vacuum turns on and starts moving air around. Getting them on the carpet got them stuck down and easier to vacuum up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He really just creates so much more work for us both ALL.THE.TIME He said he would help with his laundry, he put something in the wash like a paper towel or piece of paper who knows, there is white paper crap on ALL the clothes then puts them in the drier. (Hope that doesn't start a fire). Then SHAKES them all out (stretching clothes!) and lets the 4000000 million TINY pieces on the floor of the laundry room, he then SWEEPS the laundry room floor stuff onto the carpet outside the laundry room (we do indeed have a dust pan right next to the broom) and now is attempting to use the vacuum to try and clean this all up.

I'm so tired. Tired when he doesn't help. More tired when he does.

Careless, mindless, thoughtless help does indeed create more work and mess.

Is he competent at other things or make enough money to pay a housekeeper?

Can you keep him and his messy stuff to one area of the house - basement, guest room?

[Anonymous]

We all know what happens to dogs who can’t be house-trained…

[Anonymous]

This is why we can’t have nice. Things. Baby.

Because you break them, we have to take them. Aaaewwaaaaaaaay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg not another one…

Just buy new shirts money.

Mine rolls up the sleeves until his cubby elbows rip through them, leaves them buttoned/ rolled up, inside out…straight into the washing. then the Boy Wonder wonders why all his shirts are ripped.

He’s so over confident and ignorant he thinks this happens to everyone. Dress shirts rip in a matter of weeks.