Living funeral

[Anonymous]

This seems like something so self-involved only a boomer could dream it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems like something so self-involved only a boomer could dream it up.

I don’t think you need to worry about being invited to one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Celebration of life for live person should be called a birthday party.

Np, and this was my first thought too!

Totally disagree.

First off, birthdays about about "and many more" -- these are parties for people whose lifespan may be counted in days.

Second, birthdays mean gifts. No one at death's door needs or wants a gift.

Third, people who are dying know they are dying. This is ABOUT the fact that they are dying and their family and friends wanting to celebrate the life they lived.

It's the opposite of a birthday party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't but am reading The Celebrants, the new Steven Rowley novel, that's about just this. You might like it!

So is Family Lore by Elizabeth Acevedo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Celebration of life for live person should be called a birthday party.

Np, and this was my first thought too!

Totally disagree.

First off, birthdays about about "and many more" -- these are parties for people whose lifespan may be counted in days.

Second, birthdays mean gifts. No one at death's door needs or wants a gift.

Third, people who are dying know they are dying. This is ABOUT the fact that they are dying and their family and friends wanting to celebrate the life they lived.

It's the opposite of a birthday party.

Disagree. A family member just had a milestone birthday, a 90th. And it was planned with the full understanding that it could be the very last one. Dementia was setting in, he was barely recognizing family and friends. He died 6 months later. Everyone is grateful for that last birthday party. It wasn't about gifts. He was 90, not 9. He wasn't actively dying 6 months prior but suddenly got ill and died.

[Anonymous]

Its not called a living funeral, it's called a celebration of life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did once for someone very prominent who had ALS. It was really nice.

Is that you, Mitch Albom?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be a massive narcissist to do something like this.

You have to be an empathy-free zone of a person not to understand what OP is talking about.

Read the other posts about it here and learn something, and grow a little empathy for those who know they're dying soon, and for those who want to tell them--before they die and can't hear it--that they're appreciated.

Living funerals tend to be organized (not always by that name) not by the person themselves, but by others, so, not the narcissitic thing you assume it is. How unpleasant and unsympathetic of you, to put the worst possible construction on the idea.

Then I guess I'm an empathy-free person.

Sorry, it's weird and narcissistic in any case. Just like an adult throwing themselves a birthday party.

People are free and welcome to tell anyone, any time, how they feel about them. There's no need for a party or a "living funeral" to solicit comments. '

[Anonymous]

My husbands very longtime childhood friend had a living celebration. The friend's brothers organized it. Lot's of people showed up. Was really like a big party with music, a slideshow going the whole time, lots of laughs and lots of tears. His friend died the next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be a massive narcissist to do something like this.

You have to be an empathy-free zone of a person not to understand what OP is talking about.

Read the other posts about it here and learn something, and grow a little empathy for those who know they're dying soon, and for those who want to tell them--before they die and can't hear it--that they're appreciated.

Living funerals tend to be organized (not always by that name) not by the person themselves, but by others, so, not the narcissitic thing you assume it is. How unpleasant and unsympathetic of you, to put the worst possible construction on the idea.

Then I guess I'm an empathy-free person.

Sorry, it's weird and narcissistic in any case. Just like an adult throwing themselves a birthday party.

People are free and welcome to tell anyone, any time, how they feel about them. There's no need for a party or a "living funeral" to solicit comments. '

I say this all the time on here and everyone disagrees with me.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always thought funerals were backwards. When I’m there I’m thinking about how nice it would be for them to hear the things being said. While anyone is free to tell someone how they feel, there is not real social mechanism to do that and not many people would sit down and write a eulogy for someone living. A eulogy is often different than what you might say to someone sitting next to you. I don’t get the people who think it is narcissistic and selfish to celebrate someone who is dying. Give me flowers while I’m living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not called a living funeral, it's called a celebration of life

No, a celebration of life takes place after the person dies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always thought funerals were backwards. When I’m there I’m thinking about how nice it would be for them to hear the things being said. While anyone is free to tell someone how they feel, there is not real social mechanism to do that and not many people would sit down and write a eulogy for someone living. A eulogy is often different than what you might say to someone sitting next to you. I don’t get the people who think it is narcissistic and selfish to celebrate someone who is dying. Give me flowers while I’m living.

+1. The pilot episode to the original Fantasy Island series (70s) featured a woman who faked her death and had a funeral arranged so she could observe how her nearest and dearest responded to her demise.

[Anonymous]

Wow, life is precious. Funerals are more for the living than the dead.

If someone knows they are dying soon, what better way to go than to be surrounded by loved ones and hear the impact you had on them as you get ready to leave this earth and share those precious moments.

[Anonymous]

I’d much rather go be with someone who is dying and have a venue and a moment to celebrate them and express my love of them and my sorrow about their passing with them than with a box with their body in it.