Living funeral

[Anonymous]

Have you ever attended one? Celebration of a life of living individual. Don't know where to post

[Anonymous]

Lol is this real? Funeral for a live person?

[Anonymous]

I haven't but am reading The Celebrants, the new Steven Rowley novel, that's about just this. You might like it!

[Anonymous]

Celebration of life for live person should be called a birthday party.

[Anonymous]

This sounds way better than celebrating them when they’re dead. We had a celebration of my grandpa when he was alive and dying. He died a month later from a quick cancer (prostate). We had it catered and all the kids, grandkids and great grandkids were present. We talked about good memories with him. It was very good timing because about two weeks later he was bed ridden and barely awake and he stayed that way until he died.

[Anonymous]

I have not been to one of those, but something I have found moving is when a person is in hospice/end stage, friends and family write letters/send videos/tell stories to the person saying how much they meant to them and recollecting your time together. Essentially the same things people would say at a memorial service, but they’re read to the person while they’re still here. A group that I am associated with has begun to do this regularly. It was so much better that the person knows, and the people with them have relayed their responses back. I’d much rather have that for myself than a funeral service.

[Anonymous]

You have to be a massive narcissist to do something like this.

[Anonymous]

I was at one earlier this year.
It was very moving. The person had a terminal cancer and was still at a stage where they could sit and smile as co-workers shared moving stories of support and laughs over the years.

[Anonymous]

I did once for someone very prominent who had ALS. It was really nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to be a massive narcissist to do something like this.

You have to be an empathy-free zone of a person not to understand what OP is talking about.

Read the other posts about it here and learn something, and grow a little empathy for those who know they're dying soon, and for those who want to tell them--before they die and can't hear it--that they're appreciated.

Living funerals tend to be organized (not always by that name) not by the person themselves, but by others, so, not the narcissitic thing you assume it is. How unpleasant and unsympathetic of you, to put the worst possible construction on the idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not been to one of those, but something I have found moving is when a person is in hospice/end stage, friends and family write letters/send videos/tell stories to the person saying how much they meant to them and recollecting your time together. Essentially the same things people would say at a memorial service, but they’re read to the person while they’re still here. A group that I am associated with has begun to do this regularly. It was so much better that the person knows, and the people with them have relayed their responses back. I’d much rather have that for myself than a funeral service.

Beautiful thing to do regularly, PP. A celebration of a life, and the person being celebrated gets to hear the impact he or she had on others.

[Anonymous]

I think this is beautiful. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to a funeral/memorial/wake and wished the person we were celebrating was there. It gives them privacy for the end too.

[Anonymous]

A woman I knew was in home hospice with end-stage breast cancer and her friends held a pajama party in her house where everyone brought photos and mementos and stories of the times they'd spent with her. She laughed and, although she couldn't really speak, her last actual words turned out to be "I had fun!" She died two days after the party.

So much more meaningful and positive than the exact same thing done after the person is gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Celebration of life for live person should be called a birthday party.

Np, and this was my first thought too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be a massive narcissist to do something like this.

You have to be an empathy-free zone of a person not to understand what OP is talking about.

Read the other posts about it here and learn something, and grow a little empathy for those who know they're dying soon, and for those who want to tell them--before they die and can't hear it--that they're appreciated.

Living funerals tend to be organized (not always by that name) not by the person themselves, but by others, so, not the narcissitic thing you assume it is. How unpleasant and unsympathetic of you, to put the worst possible construction on the idea.

Nothing against the idea itself but certainly they could’ve come up with a better name!!