Kid is picking up bad behavior from kid at school. Help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So first of all, the way you talk about delays as if your son can catch them is generally offensive. Overall every child, particularly preschoolers who are rapidly developing, deserve a chance at mainstream education, provided they are not violent and have the right support to function in the classroom.

That said, my son was in a situation at school this year, the same age, with a kid who had the same nasty language. It was troubling to see him mimicking the Navi or and other parents had the same concern. At home, we taught him that those words aren’t acceptable. Initially, we used consequences like time outs or taking away desserts, which isn’t the best method and wasn’t super effective. instead together we came up with random, silly words he can say when he feels the urge to be silly. That usually helps. We also talk a lot about making good choices even when our friends aren’t doing the right thing. And we talk about empathy for his teachers, who he likes, and how it makes them feel when he says bad words. Things like that.

+1 good advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are signed up to be at school together thru the summer, except the other boy will leave earlier to go for services. My husband just called, aggravated, saying we need to pull him from the school altogether after dealing with this behavior all day.

So it’s not pre-school?

Pull him. You’ll be less anxious and he’ll be going to prek in the fall anyway.

OMG, this isn't a momma's day out program, it's a real preschool.

Reality check: everything before K is daycare, whether the program calls itself preschool or preK or academy or learning center. The people watching your kids do not have teaching certificates/licenses. Unless your 4 year old is leaning algebra and reading Shakespeare, you can get off that high horse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 4.5 year old was happy in a preschool class, and then they moved him to a different, new class because they decided to divide the classes between how long the kids stay. In the new class, there was only one other boy, who is has delays and can only say a handful of words, like butt, and makes these weird noises with his mouth. My kid and this kid have become friends but now my kid, who can speak just fine, now only makes those weird noises with his mouth, spits like the other kid, and every other word is butt. I told the school to put him back in the original class and they said no, and it’s gotten really bad the past few days where my kid is just talking nonsense like a baby and making these noises. I’ve tried time out, I am at my wits end. What would you do?!

You are over complicating this. You don’t understand what he is saying or trying to communicate. Tell him that. Every time he makes these noises:

“I don’t understand you.”
“Speak clearly. I don’t know what you are trying to say.”

Again and again. Explain that his friend makes the noises because he can’t speak clearly yet. And that since he CAN speak clearly, he need to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 4.5 year old was happy in a preschool class, and then they moved him to a different, new class because they decided to divide the classes between how long the kids stay. In the new class, there was only one other boy, who is has delays and can only say a handful of words, like butt, and makes these weird noises with his mouth. My kid and this kid have become friends but now my kid, who can speak just fine, now only makes those weird noises with his mouth, spits like the other kid, and every other word is butt. I told the school to put him back in the original class and they said no, and it’s gotten really bad the past few days where my kid is just talking nonsense like a baby and making these noises. I’ve tried time out, I am at my wits end. What would you do?!

You are over complicating this. You don’t understand what he is saying or trying to communicate. Tell him that. Every time he makes these noises:

“I don’t understand you.”
“Speak clearly. I don’t know what you are trying to say.”

Again and again. Explain that his friend makes the noises because he can’t speak clearly yet. And that since he CAN speak clearly, he need to do so.

I'd go further and explain the his friend is LEARNING to say words clearly, and he can help his friend to learn by speaking clearly and using his words. So, while your friend makes those sounds which mean words to him, you use words, and your friend is trying to learn those. so remember to use your words so me, your teachers and your friend can understand and your friend can learn.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your son may have a speech delay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are signed up to be at school together thru the summer, except the other boy will leave earlier to go for services. My husband just called, aggravated, saying we need to pull him from the school altogether after dealing with this behavior all day.

So it’s not pre-school?

Pull him. You’ll be less anxious and he’ll be going to prek in the fall anyway.

OMG, this isn't a momma's day out program, it's a real preschool.

Reality check: everything before K is daycare, whether the program calls itself preschool or preK or academy or learning center. The people watching your kids do not have teaching certificates/licenses. Unless your 4 year old is leaning algebra and reading Shakespeare, you can get off that high horse.

I think the implication was many people have to work while their child is in school so just 'pulling him out' is not an option.