“I know, you told me”

[Anonymous]

I would not say anything to interrupt them, but would give a friendly smile and nods of recognition while listening to them retell the story.

[Anonymous]

Instead of saying that they already told you, I usually try to "cut to the chase" and repeat the ending. Like "oh yes, is that where you and your friend ended up wearing the same dress to the same party?"

If you just say "Oh yes, you already told me" then it sounds dismissive and like you are trying to cut them off whether you remember the story or not. If you repeat the ending, then it confirms that not only did they tell you, but that you heard it and remembered it. Then the conversation can continue because you've acknowledged the story or what they were trying to convey. That seems more polite to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I’m conversing with someone and they start repeating a story, I’ll find a place to quickly and kindly remind them
That they’ve told me the story before. Something like, with a big smile and look of interest in what they have to say, “Oh yes, I remember! You told me about that before!”

My mother often repeats stories to me, and I do much the same with her. But if I start to repeat a story, she will basically roll her eyes and tell me in a condescending way, “I know, you told me.” I’ve developed a real complex about this and become very internally embarrassed about it. Maybe this is why I try to be so kind when reminding others of this apparent faux pas.

But why do I let my mother’s response illicit such a reaction? And why is she so unkind when it comes to this minor social mistake even she’s guilty of?

Didn't have to read past your posting. Covert narcissist.

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Anonymous wrote:Just let people tell their repeat stories. You don't like being reminded and neither do they.

Beside the point. Both OP and her mom are reminding, it's just OP is doing it in a polite way and her mom is being rude. I'm guessing OP's mom is rude in other ways where OP is also polite and respectful.

Or maybe OP isn't being as kind as she thinks and her moms is serving it right back up.

Because in general this is considered very rude. There really aren't many ways to do it nicely even with a big fat smile on your face. Just grin and bear it.

Ok.

But why are you like this? Why would OP lie. Why are you creating your own narrative? I have no reason to not believe OP

NP. Are you kidding us? OP's lie here all the time. They give us their side of the story, all prettied up to make themselves look good and omitting their own problematic behavior.

Every story has two sides. You need to learn that.

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Anonymous wrote:Just let people tell their repeat stories. You don't like being reminded and neither do they.

Beside the point. Both OP and her mom are reminding, it's just OP is doing it in a polite way and her mom is being rude. I'm guessing OP's mom is rude in other ways where OP is also polite and respectful.

Or maybe OP isn't being as kind as she thinks and her moms is serving it right back up.

Because in general this is considered very rude. There really aren't many ways to do it nicely even with a big fat smile on your face. Just grin and bear it.

Ok.

But why are you like this? Why would OP lie. Why are you creating your own narrative? I have no reason to not believe OP

NP. Are you kidding us? OP's lie here all the time. They give us their side of the story, all prettied up to make themselves look good and omitting their own problematic behavior.

Every story has two sides. You need to learn that.

So you lie too.

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Anonymous wrote:Just let people tell their repeat stories. You don't like being reminded and neither do they.

Beside the point. Both OP and her mom are reminding, it's just OP is doing it in a polite way and her mom is being rude. I'm guessing OP's mom is rude in other ways where OP is also polite and respectful.

Or maybe OP isn't being as kind as she thinks and her moms is serving it right back up.

Because in general this is considered very rude. There really aren't many ways to do it nicely even with a big fat smile on your face. Just grin and bear it.

Ok.

But why are you like this? Why would OP lie. Why are you creating your own narrative? I have no reason to not believe OP

NP. Are you kidding us? OP's lie here all the time. They give us their side of the story, all prettied up to make themselves look good and omitting their own problematic behavior.

Every story has two sides. You need to learn that.

So you lie too.

That's what you're getting from this? Odds are good if you're an OP starting a new thread in this forum, you're a lying troll. It's not farfetched to question an OP. And it must be your first day here if you don't know that.

[Anonymous]

Super rude of you to point this out, especially to an older person.