Things people forget to discuss with their SO before marrying?
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Anonymous
| General expectations. |
Anonymous
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Debt, management of finances once married, how much is each person contributing to retirement etc credit card use.
How many kids to have (or not). |
Anonymous
For some people it's weird to ask about kids because the grew up in a culture were kids are assumed -- I mean do people discuss if they will have sex or discuss if they will live together -- somethings are just assumed. I'm sure student loan debt is just "I'll keep paying my loans, they are my problem" without realizing how it can affect joint accounts. |
Anonymous
I mean everyone wants that?! |
Anonymous
| $exual kinks |
Anonymous
Yeah well I actually had the option. |
Anonymous
Why would you expect someone else to pay your loans? |
Anonymous
| It turned out that DH and I both forgot to discuss extended family emergencies with each other. Like what happens if someone in the family has a baby and then abandons it and we wind up adopting it, not that that happened to us or anything. |
Anonymous
| Ask if person is in debt and how they plan on paying it off with out draining your resources. |
Anonymous
| Make sure other person is into daily kindness, not just in big gestures. |
Anonymous
These are all good ones. Also, beyond the kids v. no kids, if the answer is kids, there are hundreds of topics to be explored, from discipline, work-life balance, schooling, etc. Also: Social needs Diet/exercise priorities How free time is spent, hobbies and interests Vacation style Pets Career goals Lifestyle expectations How to resolve disagreements Emotional support and communication expectations |
Anonymous
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Mental disorders
Why his dad never worked after age 50 Why his sibling is a failure to launch Wouldn’t have mattered, he has a meaningless interpretation of everything |
Anonymous
Exhibit A for the merit of prenuptial agreements, even among those without significant assets going in. |
Anonymous
| AC temperature |
Anonymous
| Money, including desire to make more money, how to prioritize spending, how soon to retire and how to save for that. |